[mariopham]

Hello Guy. I have a problem with myself. I don't know what to do now. This is the first time I join this website. Hope you give me advise. I'm 26 year old,Asian guy, I had ex-bf 2 years ago,he is Québécois, for longtime I didn't have another one, because I didn't believe anyone. I came Montreal for studying, my life was very very boring,because I always upset and alone. Every body told me that ' I am cute, handsome Asian , nice guy... ' but I wasn't interesting with anyone else,because I did want to be suffer again. But 1 month ago, after finishing in the gym, I went to the Sauna for relaxing, not looking for sex. Because in the sauna almost old gay man. At this time, I met M and Y. I met M first, He tried to talk with me, and wanted sex with me, of course he is very handsome and masculine, I didn't know he has a boyfriend here. We came to his room and sex together, and his boyfriend came into. And we sex 3 some. M sex with me by his best , he looked me by his real love ,and I knew this man want to be boyfriend with me. After that,we changed the number. I lest the Sauna, and didn't think anything. That afternoon, he sent the text to me,to said that, he loved me, that I am his dream man . I really confused ,because I didn't know him.He invited me to come his house ( 200 km they live very far from me ) and I promised to come their place on weekend . But the day after they came to Montreal to meet me again. M told me, he loved me, and his boyfriend loved me too.I told him, I loved him too. On weekend I went to their house by bus, they were very happy to meet me. We had a lot of happiness together. But I recognized I just loved M. I didn't love his boyfriend. M told me everything about him, about his boyfriend, about their business, He gave me a lot of his love, he is very honest, and he loves me so much, its true, I know that. But I know, Y is a good person, he accepts everything, to make me and M happy.after that, I wanted to give M back to his life with Y.that I didn't want to meet them again. I sent the email when I came back Montreal, I let him decided ,that we kept on or I didn't meet them again, but he told me that I should decide not him. Because I love him so much, so I want to keep this relationship . Now we are very happy, He told me, he and Y are sharing house ,car, business,everything for 12 years, so he can't give up ,but he needs me in his life. Of course I love him so much.and I accept everything, because I don't want to lose him, I can't find another man like him anymore. Lat week they celebrated my birthday for me, we told about the plan in the future .and they were very honest. I don't know, what happened with us, please give advise. Please.
Thank guys.

[Alty]

Sounds like M and Y are okay with seeing other people, and you're the newest one.

The fact is, they've been together for 12 years and M has told you that his relationship with Y isn't going to change. So, at best that makes you a third wheel.

Is there a future in this? It depends on what you're looking for. If you're only looking for sex and friendship, but no commitment, than go for it, because that's all that M can offer. If you're looking for a partnership, a relationship, being part of a twosome, a couple, you have to realize that that's most likely not going to happen with M, because he'll always have Y.

So what are you looking for? I know you care about him, but you have to be honest with yourself. What do you want in the future? Do you see that happening with M and Y? If not, it's best to leave now.

[talaniman]

I don't know, what happened with us,

Nothing happened, M and Y are a packaged deal, and you were invited to share what he has but if you can't deal with M AND Y, then looks like you have to go your own way. Sorry guy but I doubt you can get one without the other, and I see no way you break them up.

Its threesome, or NOsome.

[s.m.lover]

I agree with talaniman.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes and I would also question, if there has been other "third wheels" they may from time to time, bring in young or other lovers for a change of pace but for short term,

So the history of them with others should be looked at also