[sara.nat]

This guy I liked used to ignore me a lot. Now he has started liking me a lot. He even felt shy to tell me that. He thought I'd say no because he had hurt me a lot. But he tells me he loves me. He has a dark personality and is kind of reserved. All throughout school he has got quite a reputation of being known as The Bad Boy, thanks to his disgusting friends but he is really handsome. We hardly talk over the phone. When we text he goes all lovey dovey. But its hard for me 2 believe that he's serious about this relationship. For one thing he is never serious. And he is a bit of a flirt. My friends urge me to go on. Even they know its not lasting long and wants me to make the best of it. But I don't know if I should trust him. Then I might try to make him more civilized. But is he really serious about this?

[bookie1386]

Sara.net

I hate to be mean and say what I think you don't want to hear, but this guy sounds like a real douche bag.

You wrote, "This guy i liked used to ignore me a lot. now he has started liking me a lot. He even felt shy to tell me that. He thought i'd say no coz he had hurt me a lot. But he tells me he loves me. He has a dark personality and is kind of reserved."
okay: he ignored you.... then he liked you a lot..... and then felt shy (i wonder if some mingling took place) again.... and then worried because he
hurt you. something tells me that things happened that weren't suppose to and now there's a guilty party

but then you say: "We hardly talk over the phone. When we text he goes all lovey dovey. But its hard 4 me 2 believe that hes serious about this relationship. For one thing he is never serious. and he is a bit of a flirt"
you basically answered your own concern. Trust is the most important part of a relationship, and without that element it is impossible for a couple
to survive. If its hard for you to trust him, moving on from there is more difficult. Also, it is harder for a person to lie over the phone than text
message... so the fact that you two hardly talk over the phone is concern.
also, you say it yourself - that is hard to you to believe he's serious (about you two... as I imagined where the question was leading to)
because he's never serious. ------ if you're unsure about him now, when while you know his honesty?

I think that if you two were 100% serious about maintaining and building a relationship that you should ask him, in person, what he sees in the future for you two. And if he dodges the question I would be greatly concerned (i.e. forget it). But if he keeps referring to his future (and what his plans are), I think that is a guy's way of hinting you into their plans -- and what I hope happens for you.

Sorry for being so blunt, but I answered this as I wish a person would answer me
Best of luck!

Cheers,
Bookie

[CupcakeLover99]

Hi. Well, I think you should givve him a chance. He might've ignored you earlier, but he might not have known you then. I know some 'bad' boys and they are really nice to me!! So maybe just give him a chance and I hope everything turns out well for you too.
Good luck!

[gunace]

u said u two hardly talk over the phone.Why don't you two go somewhere alone and discuss about this matter face to face.observe his expressions... does he skip a lot of questions? Beside he's a bad guy.. what made u see him as a bad guy?nevertheless TRUST is the biggest thing