[Corroboree]

So I have a relationship with someone, I'm very happy she's with me, and I like her very much but I think I might've made a faux pas that's really screwed things up.

She's gone on a 3 week holiday, we keep in touch occasionally but not too much, I think it's good this way because she'll want to her enjoy her holiday and we can talk when gets back, but it's nice to here from her now and then. Last weekend she sent me a sweet message asking how I was doing but unfortunately I didn't know because I'd left my phone downstairs that day before going to bed and didn't reply until the next day. Then later that weekend she sent a message saying where she was now and asking where I was and if I could log on to Facebook that night because she had net access. Unfortunately I was at a festival that night and didn't see the message till the next day. I was a bit worried this was the second time in a row it'd happened so I messaged back asking if I could talk to her that day instead. I should point out that her English isn't perfect, her reply was "You were busy. No I will be busy too. see you".

I sent a message the next day asking how the trip was going, and another on Facebook the day after. None have received anything back, there's only so many messages one can send and so much time between them before it becomes kind of weird. I really wish I wasn't fretting about this so much, I feel guilty but I also feel like I haven't actually done anything wrong, timing just worked against me. Regardless of this though, I really don't want to blow it and it's so much more distressing when she's far away on holiday, I'd managed to keep my fretting to a general disquiet but it's been a growing sense of unease to the point where I can no longer deny to myself that it isn't REALLY bothering me.

It's not the lack of contact that's the problem, it's the lack of contact following such an unsettling exchange being alone back at home here gives me plenty of time to start to imagining the worst and the communications freeze is doing little to assuage my discomfort. Is there anything I can do that wouldn't likely make this even worse, I don't want to come across pathetic and needy, especially as it might just make her even less inclined to hear me but I don't want my inaction to make her feel like I'm unfazed

[Shadowburn]

Well, you can call or email her and to tell her what you told us. You can apologize for not responding to her messages quicker, but other than that, I really don't think it's a big deal. Once she is back, you'll be able to talk in person and to clear it up.

[Homegirl 50]

E-mail her or send her a message and apologize for missing her text.
Tell you you miss her and can't wait to see her. That's really about all there is to do.

[Corroboree]

Thanks guys, everything's resolved itself actually. She just ran out of credit, goes to show how you can become paranoid about stupid things.

[talaniman]

Next time just be honest, and explain things promptly.