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    Aug 31, 2010, 05:08 AM
    Its been two years how do I get over my ex who is now married
    My ex (first love) and I have been broken up for two years, he's now married and I have a boyfriend but I can't love him the way I should because I'm not over my ex. How can I get over him.
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    Aug 31, 2010, 07:51 AM

    Do you still talk to the ex??
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    Sep 6, 2010, 08:48 PM
    One day at a time... if you were meant to be together you would be together.. u have 2 let go and its not always going to be easy... but like I said you take it day by day and one step at a time... God will see you threw it... ask him 2 send you a wonderful man that he has picked out perfectly for you!!
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    Sep 6, 2010, 09:03 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by desdestiny413 View Post
    one day at a time... if u were meant to be together u would be together.. u have 2 let go and its not always going 2 be easy ... but like i said u take it day by day and one step at a time... God will see u threw it ... ask him 2 send u a wonderful man that he has picked out perfectly 4 u !!!!
    No text or chat speak.
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    Sep 24, 2010, 03:47 PM
    You don't talk to your ex, and you let time heal you.

    As for your new relationship, not sure if your being fair to your new spouse if your hearts else where, don't hurt anyone like you've been hurt because your lonely.

    -LCM
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    Sep 24, 2010, 03:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by desdestiny413 View Post
    one day at a time... if u were meant to be together u would be together.. u have 2 let go and its not always going 2 be easy ... but like i said u take it day by day and one step at a time... God will see u threw it ... ask him 2 send u a wonderful man that he has picked out perfectly 4 u !!!!
    Please do not use Text or Chat speak... Thank You
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    Sep 24, 2010, 04:27 PM
    If there has been anything whatsoever going on with your ex, either before, during or after he got married, that would be helpful to know. Texting, email, IM, Facebook, etc. included.

    If there has been no contact since you split with him, and even though you have both gone on with your lives, him marrying, and you in another relationship, and you are still struggling with your feelings for your ex, it is time to resolve them once and for all.

    Aside from the fact that he is not available, sometimes what happens is, when you don't work through the last relationship, you aren't ready for the next. Because you bring the loose ends, unsettled thoughts and feelings, and inevitable comparisons of him, to your new boyfriend.

    It is easy to slip into that place where all you remember is the good, or the essence of a person that you once loved, and that clouds your vision, and distorts the reality of the situation you are in now, which is making a new relationship work.

    Your current boyfriend is not getting a 100% commitment, or effort from you, because you still bring your ex into the relationship. He is facing an invisible foe in a way, because even without being aware, he is too affected, because you are not over your ex.

    I don't know that you are unhappy now with your current boyfriend, and that keeps your ex in your mind, or if your ex has always been on your mind, and you have unresolved issues with the end of that relationship. Perhaps he hurt you deeply, or there were substance problems, or infidelity, I don't know. But, whatever remains unresolved with him, will continue to cloud your freedom to freely love another without encumbrances.

    You might consider counselling to help you sort through this stranglehold he has over you, and learn how to accept, and let go, of him (and the past with him), in order so that you can honestly face the future.
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    Feb 1, 2011, 05:17 AM
    Forget him and put your mind on your new relationship

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