[jessicasre]

We got married in June 2009. Initially for 1 month I used to feel excessive pain and so he won't insert fully forcibly. Gradually he started inserting fully and we kept doint it with condom on.
He got an infection over the penis area i.e. some white paste started accumulating on the ring. We consulted a doctor and she gave him some injections and medication and aksed us to abstain from sex. We got some tests done and we found out that he was diabetic.
After his infection went away I catched the infection and doctor asked us to abstain from sex.
I got UTI. Then it got corrected. Since then I have caught UTI 4 times. I have fibroid and cist. These were not present in my initial ultrasound after marriage but were detected in nov.2009.
My husband used to like(rather love madly)her colleague in a foreign country who was white.. very successful girl. He told me about this before marriage and said that it was onesided.
He is very caring towards me.
I have a wheatish complexion. My butts are a bit on darker side and m not fair at all.
I have a very impressive personality. Good height,slim body,lovely eyes,nice hair and he himself says that I'm very beautiful. He although has a very impressive personality,is very successful,anyone who meets him likes him,has a very nice smile,but is a bit fatty.

NOW THE PROBLEM:
Till today he has never ejaculated inside me.
He is used to of masturbating a lot. He loves to see porn and F TV.
I was also very open and frank and in the starting I used to see F TV and porn with him. He masturbates in front of me and asks me to cuddle with him so that he can masturbate easily.
He himself tries hard but is not able to have an orgasm inside me.
I don't know whether he feels anything when his penis is inside me or not because its always me who makes noise. He focuses on in-out and kissing and watching me.
I want kids. Both my mother and my mother in law want us to have kids. I am in a real big trouble. I can't tell it to anybody because otherwise he is very nice and it seems that he loves me . May be that he is so understanding that he has compromised to the situation that he could never have got married to that girl as she was a foriegner(family wouldn't have agreed

0 and that it was one sided love. I dontknow whether its my colour which doesn't let hi focrus on me. Please help.

[smoothy]

I think HE might not be ready for kids... but won't tell you.

And I assure you, he can feel when he is inside you, assuming he isn't wearing a condom. With one its harder to feel, but it appears that you do not use protection, he doesn't either, you want a baby... but I think he may not be ready for one.

Do not think it is your skin color... there are beautiful women of all skin colors.

[Cat1864]

You need to have a discussion with him about your concerns and his.

Smoothy may be correct about his being hesitant to have children. However, to me, it sounds like he has gotten used to the feel of his own hand during all the illnesses.

The pressure and control he can exert with his hand is very different from the sensations he would experience from intercourse. Have him refrain from masturbating for a while and see if it gets easier for him to orgasm through intercourse.

[beachloverjohn]

There are lots of other ways for him to achieve orgasm. I don't think whatt you say is that uncommon.

[Xerolyfe]

As a guy I used to have this problem for a LONG time when I first started having sex. The first three times I had sex I actually I didn't orgasm at all. For me I was so used to taking care of my own business that I couldn't get off any other way. I really tried, a lot, and I wanted to do so bad, but most of the time I just couldn't get there. It wasn't that there was anything wrong with my partner, it was just that it felt too different than what I was used to doing by myself.

The trick for me was to lay off the masturbation and have more sex and more often. Eventually I got to the point where I could do it sometimes, and now I can do it every time. HOWEVER, if I go long enough without sex (a few weeks to a month or more), I will notice a problem reaching climax inside my partner again.

One thing I noticed too is that the rhythm I use while masturbating is very short and fast strokes but while having sex I'm more likely to orgasm from long, hard strokes. I'm also more likely to orgasm in different positions than others.

Just have a lot more sex. I'll bet you that's the problem.