[cooler9000]

hello
have a question:
met this philpena girl online a few years ago. We both lived near los angeles ca. Well I still do.
we after few dates got into a realationship. We were later on down road to get married, we did not. We ended up breaking up, a few times. Now she back in philpennes. She recently contacted me a while back havent; heard from her for a few years. Before her mom would ask for money from me for remt money when they in states . They back in philappenes, they have not asked since. So did anabel. Reason they all went back there is they claim they could not afford it. Anabel over stated her visa which is the problem now. She made mistake admits she did wrong before so have I and she wants to start over. She now wants to marry me. But, she over stayed her visa. She can't just come to US. She would like for me to go to philappenes to marry her so she can come back here, but only her her mom dad and sister will remain in philappenes she claims. They were all here before. I wonder if it is possible for her to come here without me having to go there in 5 years or less don't know. Here are some of the things she has said off Facebook.


"those girls can't answer that because they don't have plans to get married"
"Just like guys are the same too, if they can't decide they want to get married it means they are not ready to get married either"

I have already told you over and over haven't you read my messages to you, I said" everybody have to get married because we can't live alone once we get older, and also we love each other because we have been together for a long time" If it wasn't that you fought with me before in Las Vegas, we could have married long time ago. Actually, it wasn't me who broke our relationship before, "IT WAS YOU". So now why are you asking me instead you should ask yourself. We were so happy back then in Las Vegas so you shouldn't have fought with me. I told you we should both change our bad attitude but we have both admit our mistake so we promise to change for the better relationship in the future. Hope I won't need to repeat myself over again , and you understand what I meant now.

yes, I can't go there for more than 5 yrs or u could assume it could probably be 10 yrs. You know I would like us still be together u you know because we both love each other and we knew each other very well. We just made a mistake back then in Las Vegas that's why we didn't got married.

"those girls can't answer that because they don't have plans to get married"
"Just like guys are the same too, if they can't decide they want to get married it means they are not ready to get married either"

I have already told you over and over haven't you read my messages to you, I said" everybody have to get married because we can't live alone once we get older, and also we love each other because we have been together for a long time" If it wasn't that you fought with me before in Las Vegas, we could have married long time ago. Actually, it wasn't me who broke our relationship before, "IT WAS YOU". So now why are you asking me instead you should ask yourself. We were so happy back then in Las Vegas so you shouldn't have fought with me. I told you we should both change our bad attitude but we have both admit our mistake so we promise to change for the better relationship in the future. Hope I won't need to repeat myself over again , and you understand what I meant now.

I still care about u too =) I know I did treated u not fair before and you did too. I will change for good and you should too. Last thing she told me on face book 8-19-10. Are you busy? Why aren't you answering me message? Please be honest with me do you still want us to be together or not? I'm not rushing you but I just want you to be upfront if you still have plans for our future together. Problem is, my parents live in los angeles county, her parents in philapenes. How can this be a good realationship between both parents? It's not like my parents can just visit her parents. Is this a scam or no?

sincerely,

[Jake2008]

It is, at best, confusing.

You split up, she returned to her home country, and suddenly, after two years, she wants you to come to the Philippines, and marry her? Instinct tells me that this is a scam, she only wishes to return to the States.

She knows she cannot come there without assisstance from you, which is likely her true purpose. You just happen to be handy- if she can talk you into it.

At the very least, if you decide to maintain contact with her now, after such a long period after the relationship ended, keep it between countries for now. Email particularly, and be very, very careful not to get sucked into a) another bad relationship with her, and b) a possible immigration scam.

My best advice to you is to stop all contact with her, and do not pursue this. It sounds suspicious to me, but I do not know how you feel about her, or whether you think a reconcilliation is what is in your best interests.

With you having gone on with your life, I can also not understand why you would consider going backwards.