[loveless044]

After reading the post by 411Help, I realize that something he said really caught my attention. He said that sex can ruin the relationship if you're not ready for it because it'll become all you do and you won't do other fun stuff. I realized that my boyfriend and I don't really talk much if we're not talking about sex. And sometimes when we want to get together to do something, we often decide not to go out and just hang at my house, which usually ends up just being a sex date. Well, I don't think that sex has drawn us apart or anything because as wrong as this may sound (or is) we had sex the second night after meeting each other but after that we took the time to get to know each other. And it was a while before we did it again. It was my first time having sex so soon after meeting someone but it happened. That's not why I'm writing though.

Of course we should not have started having sex in the first place since we're only teens, but seriously, I'm not even going to lie and say that I'm going to stop because I know that I'm not.

I know that he's not only in it for the sex and neither am I. I just want to know what we can do to get our minds off sex and get back to doing fun and interesting things. We still have an interest for those things but we tend to throw our other plans out the window in order to make plans for sex.

I just want to get back to having fun and enjoying each other's company in a more appropriate manner than we have. Any suggestions, please?

[i_eat_paper]

Organize a fun event together where you'll be too distracted to have sex. When you think of kids and teenagers, you think of fun, and adventure, right?
Go to the amusement park. Go for a bike ride. Ice skating. Going to dinner and a movie. Enjoy being a kid and doing fun stuff that you used to do before you got into sex, and before you know it, it won't be your first priority anymore-just a treat every so often ;)

[martinizing2]

I think that when people first start having sex, many tend to not want to do much else.

But if it becomes the center of your relationship that is a problem.

If you are forsaking just spending time together and having sex every chance you get, you are not getting to know each other.
You do that by going out and doing things that are fun, and interacting with each other in different situations.

Show some self control and agree not to have sex when you have made plans to go out.

And go out often. Every day. Having sex at a young age more often than not leads to serious problems.

And if you insist on doing it USE PROTECTION!

[loveless044]

Thanks guys,

Your advise was very beneficial. Well we went out yesterday and spent nearly the entire day together without having sex at all. And we really had a great time just enjoying each other's company.

Again, thanks a lot!