[brandymaher]

Hello, first off I would like to say thank you very much for this website. I found out a lot of info on here. Here is my issue. My husband and I have been togeher for 5 years. We have had sex unprotected for all these years. Now I got pregnant fine 7 years ago with my daughter with another partner (high school sweat heart). Now here is the catcher, my husband and I were together when I was 14 and 15, with no protection and no baby. Could something still be wrong with me, or is it what I'm thinking and all fingers are pointing at him. I had a PAP done 2 weeks ago an it was normal (thats the first time) but I have gained 40 pounds in a year and a half (women, its hard going from a job when you were on your feet for 10 hours a day, and now sitting behind a desk all day! ) Any little bit can help. Oh yeah, my man is typical, he won't go to the doctor! He claims on and on that he is fine, its all me!! Any suggestions! Every bit would help!:rolleyes: :) :)

[buggage]

Well, if he is "fine" and its "your fault" then he should have no problem proving it, right? Probably he is afraid to find out that it is on his end of the deal. That's a big thing for guys, I think. Feeling like if he can't get his wife pregnant because of a low sperm count, or whatever, he is less of a man.He might also be afraid that if it is found to be on his side of things, that you might be angry with him, or leave him. Perhaps if you sit down with him and talk to him, telling him how important it is to you to find out, and that you will get yourself checked out for problems too, if he will. Help him to understand that you just want to know how to fix this and get pregnant, not find out who's fault it is, so that you can point fingers. I am sure that he is just a little insecure and doesn't want to hurt you. But it can make a woman feel like less of a woman because she can't get pregnant too, so its just a matter of you two being considerate of eachothers perspectives, and working together to make it right. Best of wishes, and good luck

[JoeCanada76]

He is very insensitive if he is telling you it is all you. Whenever anybody has a problem conceiving for two years then BOTH partners should go get testing at a fertility clinic. Doctors can refer both of you.

There are many factors in getting pregnant. What do you do after intercourse. How many times a day do you have intercourse. Have you figured out your fertile days? Is your monthly cycle regular. Is there any other medical conditions that you may have that might make it harder to conceive, for example: Epilepsy.

Joe