[HaloDior]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. When we first got together I saw his email open and saw an email that he had sent to a forum website that deals with his cell phone looking for a program that he could download that will hide text messages on his phone. I obviously became suspious wondering why he would need to hide text messages on his cell phone and confronted him on it. He told me that his ex still texted him all the time and sometimes she would get drunk and text him things like she's still in love with him and wants him back and he didn't want me to see that and that's why he was going to download that. He swore that he wanted nothing to do with her and gave me his password for his email and Facebook which is the same he keeps the same password for everything and told me check it whenever you want I have nothing to hide. So now its been like 6 months since all that happened and I noticed some girl that I have never heard of posted something on his Facebook wall thanking him for suggesting this bar to her and she hopes that next time he invites her when he goes. So I decided to check his Facebook and he's changed his password which makes me very suspious. I know I really have no right to check his stuff but he was the one in the first place that gave them to me and I never checked his stuff until now when I saw that. Should I ask him why he's changed his password? I asked him who the girl was and he said he has no idea who she is she randomly added him and then asked him over Facebook chat if he knew of any good bars to go too. He has no idea that I know he's changed his password but I'm assuming he did it because he doesn't want me on there.

[lickemlolly]

The fact that she asked him about a bar isn't really anything incriminating... he could have changed his password for a number of reasons... however you still have the passwords to his email.. is that not the same place all his notifications for fb go? So if he had something to hide why wouldn't he change them both?look honestly if you can't trust this guy then you shouldn't be with him.. relationships are built on trust.. and it doesn't sound like you have that here

[Homegirl 50]

You really ought to stay off his page and his e-mail. When you first started dating you looked in his email. You had no right to do that. If you go looking for trouble you are bound to find it.
If you are the type that has to snoop to feel secure, you're not really ready for a relationship. If you don't trust him leave him alone, but stop snooping.

[DoulaLC]

Stop checking up on him... it will drive you crazy. You will find you start to read something into every little comment.

If your relationship is good, you feel you have good communication, he spends much of his time with you, etc. as Homegirl said, don't go looking for trouble. Focus on having fun together and building a strong relationship.

[talaniman]

Why drive yourself crazy when you can just talk to him. After all he told you you could check anytime he has nothing to hide, so ask him why he changed his pass word.

Probably to keep you from taking something small, and innocent, and making a big deal of it.

Look for trouble and you will find it, or in your case, make it.