[Night_Elf]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now,
I am 25, He is 23.
We are pretty dam serious about each. We love one another and show it, But not in all ways that should be.

About 2 months ago, His parents asked me to move in with them, (( My boyfriend was living with them to begin with because of financial reasons and to save money ))
Before hand we had a long distance relationship for about 4 month. And that is when his parents asked me to move in, Frankly it was their idea, rather shocking at first but it made me happy, I lived with my father and brother but it was a small place and we were fighting all the time.

So I moved in with my boyfriends family, I couldn't ask for more.

BUT.
(( Before hand when I lived out of the house, when ever he came over we had sex as much as we could ))
When I first moved in the sex was on a steady ground, considering we have to sneak around >_>
Well night time anyway.

But I started noticing a trend, I was the one engaging the sex ALL THE TIME and I still am.
It has gotten to the point were I am thinking bad things.
Like does he love me ?
Am I attractive enough ?

He watches porn nightly to get off, I under stand that part, But I want the attention too.
I have talked to him about this before a couple times.
But he doesn't want to do anything with his parents in the house.
And each time I talk to him it is the same excuse, I am really sick of it.

All of this is making our relationship rough.
I get more moody with him, and he wonders why !

Please help me with suggestions !

[Cat1864]

What was the understanding with his parent's when you moved in about your sexual relationship with their son? If you have to 'sneak around', then he may be right about not wanting to do anything while his parents are home.

He may also be uncomfortable with the thought of them overhearing any noises if they are okay with the two of you having sex under their roof.

How much longer do you think you will be living in their house?

Can you get away for a night or two? See if that helps?

[Night_Elf]

What was the understanding with his parent's when you moved in about your sexual relationship with their son? If you have to 'sneak around', then he may be right about not wanting to do anything while his parents are home.

He may also be uncomfortable with the thought of them overhearing any noises if they are okay with the two of you having sex under their roof.

How much longer do you think you will be living in their house?

Can you get away for a night or two? See if that helps?

They know we have sex, and are fine about it.
Just as long as we use protection * Which we do *
In fact we very often joke about it.

During the night is the only time we get to have sex, Even then he is not wanting to do it.

And about his parents, they want us to stay as long as possible, to be able to buy a house of our own.
They are very understandable people.

The fact of * Noises * well we are pretty quiet.

[lickemlolly]

Seems like you may need to be a bit more understanding from his perspective... I know his parents "know" you guys are having sex but HIS comfort level of having sex with his parents around may not be the same as yours... you kind of accepted that consequence when you moved in with them... hes plainly telling you what the problem is... and I agree with the trying to get away for a night or so and see if it would help...

[Cat1864]

When I first moved in the sex was on a steady ground, considering we have to sneak around >_>
Well night time anyway.

'Sneaking around' seems at odds with them being okay with you having sex.

Could the joking be part of him feeling self-conscious about having sex?

How are other areas of your relationship such as showing affection in ways other than intercourse?

Have you sat down and had a discussion with him about what both of you expect and need in the relationship?

[CravenMorhead]

Hhhmmmm... I would suggest that you both get out of there as soon as your are financially able. It might be a month, it might be a year.

The parents might be comfortable with it, but he isn't. The parents don't really need to know/hear you having sex and he doesn't what them to know. This is nothing new. It could also be a respect thing.

Another thing that isn't new. Talk to him. If he isn't comfortable having sex with his parents in the house than you'll have to find another venue. Or talk to the parents see if you can convince them to take a 'walk' at certain points through out the day so that you and him can 'talk', and by talk I mean have sex.

There are solutions, but I think moving in with him and his parents might have been a little premature. All you can do now is try and salvage it.