[erica1234]

Me and my ex boyfriend broke up about nine monnths ago but remained as friends but for some reason always argued back to back he tells me he loves me and wants to be friends regurdless but then he tells me he hates me and wants nothing to do with me I don't know what to do anymore everyone tells me to cutt him off what should I do? I'm confused wee go days with out talking to each other but then he calls me out of the blue tellling me he misses me

[Cat1864]

Erica, how old are you?

Thank you for not using text talk, however, for future reference, please use punctuation. It makes it easier to understand what you are trying to say.

It sounds like you need to end the confusion and let him go.

Generally, after people have admitted to cheating in a relationship there are trust issues that take a very long time to rebuild. Somehow, I get the impression that those issues have not been dealt with and are still causing problems when you try being friends.

The one way to end the confusion is to go No Contact (do not accept any contact from him; do not initiate any contact with him; delete/block phone numbers and screen names; De-friend him on any sites like MySpace or Facebook; in general, remove temptation to know what he is doing.) and allow yourself to heal and move on. Do not make yourself available as a target for his moodiness or boredom. You deserve to find someone who truly wants to build a future with you. Not someone who wants to destroy the present because the past keeps getting in the way.

Break the cycle and end the confusion. Take care of yourself. Leave him to take care of himself.

Good luck.

[slapshot_oi]

Sounds toxic, why would you even consider getting back together?

[talaniman]

Be better if you both left each other alone.

[Kitkat22]

Don't try to renew a relationship where there will constant bickering.
Move on and let him move on.

[vanheart]

Like you said.

You cheated on each other which means you guys were not really committed.

Now you wonder why. Go figure...

"remained as friends but for some reason always argued"
"he tells me he hates me and wants nothing to do with me"

Hello?

This wasn't right from the get go. Move on.

Don't cheat. Love instead.

[positiveparent]

You both cheated therefore you both broken one of the things that binds a relationship together and helps hold it there, that being trust, as well as this you showed little to no respect for each other let it go its toxic and as such is beyond repair.

Move on and let him do the same.