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    Jul 28, 2010, 07:14 AM
    My boyfriend may be having second thoughts about our breakup...
    Hi...
    Um my boyfriend dumped me a couple of days ago, and I've spoken to him and stuff, but I think he's having second thoughts... he was really kind when he knew I was upset, and he kept going on about 'maybe making a mistake' and 'missing me too'...
    If he asks me out again what should I say? The reason he dumped me was because he was in love with one of my friends, and when we were going out he always flirted with her and talking to her instead of me... but I really, really, really love him, and I am so confused, because I don't want to while I don't know if he loves me or her... :( :( advice please, I don't care if I like it or not I just need some advice :( thanks x
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    Jul 28, 2010, 08:02 AM

    When there is a third person involved, you really have to run like wind. He is in love with another girl and dumped you. What else do you need to know? He definitely may try to ask you out and to keep you on a back burner while he tries his luck with a new girl, but why would you want to be second best?
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    Jul 28, 2010, 09:41 AM
    Run! He is looking for himself. So look out for yourself. You will feel so much more powerful if you call the shots instead of letting him choose who he wants. Dump the friend if she goes out with him.
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    Jul 28, 2010, 09:58 AM

    Did the other girl fall off the face of the earth? If she is still around you still have a problem.
    Forget about this guy, he's not the only one in the world. Don't belittle yourself by getting back into that mess.
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    Jul 28, 2010, 10:00 AM

    He may miss what he had when he had two girls, but he does not miss you.

    If he missed you he would have never went for the other girl or left you in the first place. You are probably a great person, but there are some people in life who will not appreciate that as much as they should and he is one of them.

    Love is not one sided and cannot be one sided. You cannot love him so unconditionally if he cannot love you at all. Save yourself before it's too late, find yourself. You don't need to depend on anyone else for your happiness.
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    Jul 28, 2010, 02:35 PM

    Why reward his bad behavior by taking him back? He dumped you before, what makes you think he won't do it again because for a fact you know that your not the only one who he has feelings for.

    Don't fall for the sweet talk.
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    Jul 30, 2010, 11:42 AM

    He loves someone else that should tell you all you need to know, anything else forget it, he's not worth hanging around for and why should you play second fiddle.

    Hes made his choice now let him stick with it.

    You'll find another b/f one who will hopefully appreciate you for who and what you are.
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