[guldu]

Hi,
I am not sure where to start. Right from childhood my parents were scolding me and have also beaten me many a times. I was too young to react to any of those. Now I am 27 . They don't beat me anymore but every time we have any kind of career related conversations I grow wild on them and start shouting back. I don't like what is happenning . I have been a failure with my studies because of my parents behaviour in the past. I have told them about the same but they say every parent scolds and beats his/her child. My parents used to fight a lot. I have literally seen them coming to blows. So you can imagine what kind of environment I have grown up in. Any time I see my friends I always wish I was born in their house. They all are well educated and have good jobs. But I am still confused with my life and am not having a good job. Sometimes I get very very frustated with the way my life is . Every night I sleep thinking "do i have to wake up tomorrow" . I hate my life.

PLease help me

[Clough]

Hi, guldu!

How are you currently employed and are you living on your own, please?

Thanks!

[redhed35]

Time to hang up the childhood hurts and start dealing with the decisions you make now as an adult.

If your making any major career decisions,source all the information,make an informed decision,and then inform your parents.

Your not asking for their approval your telling them of your decision.

Some councilling may be the way forward for you.

Set yourself up for success,start with small goals,you don't need anyone to say' good boy' 'good girl' you're an adult now,and yourself esteem can come from within,a personal sense of pride in your work and life.

Stop using your childhood experience as a crunch or an excuse for failing,YOU are in control of your life,YOU decide,not your parents.

[guldu]

@Clough - I am employed but still with my parents. The place were I come from families stay together

[guldu]

@redhed35
I do understand that I am not a child anymore and have to make my own decision's. The last time I fought with my parents my dad said I could go live separately if I wanted to . That is not what I want. I want to stay together and take care of my parents in their old age. The society I am in also does not respect youngsters who leave their parents at their old age. I have a lot of things which I am not sure of. I have got a training and spent huge sums of money. There is no job for that now. I am not sure if I have to forget about it completely and just go where I get some future or wait and see if this training what I did would get me any good job.

[Clough]

Hi again, guldu!

I did ask you how you are currently employed in my original post to you. It would be helpful to know what you do to make a living for yourself, if you wouldn't mind sharing that, please?

Thanks!

[guldu]

@ Clough
I am currently employed in a call centre. I earn enough to take care of myself.