[kenaibarbie]

My boyfriend and I were only together for about a little over a month, and even though we weren't together for very long I fell deeply in love with him, and he with me. 6 weeks after we started dating, his ex girlfriend called and informed him that she was pregnant with his child. He is huge on family being family and all of that stuff.. so he feels like its his responsibility to at least try and make his relationship with his ex work, for the baby. Its been a month since we found out about his ex being pregnant and he left me to try and work things out, and since then I've been 3000 miles away on vacation, but every single night we get on Facebook and talk for hours and hours, and he tells me he misses me and loves me and can't wait till I come home because he wants to see me. I know he loves me, and that we are meant to be together, and I don't understand why he is with his ex.. I mean I understand the whole thing about him wanting to make a real family for his kid, but he's never going to be happy with her, and I can't move on to another guy because I love my ex so much.
I don't know what to tell him to make him understand that he doesn't need to be with his ex just to make his child have a good family life. Please help me :( I love him so much but I just can't wait forever. Thinking of him with her is killing me. I don't know what to do :(

[positiveparent]

I take it your b/f is now back with his ex whose having a baby.

I think this should tell you where you stand, and that he's back with her because its what he wants, and he's leading you on or keeping you as a back up babe, in case the relationship he's in with the ex falls flat.

You say you were together for little over a month, hardly time for you and he to be committed.

How long was he with the ex g/f for?

Hes not doing anything he doesn't want to be doing, she's not making him stay with her, if he wanted to be with you he would be with you, as he's not then I would suggest you go No Contact immediately, if it turns out its you he wants he will come to you.

If you go NC you'll get over him and heal and then move on.

From what you say in your post though it appears he's with the ex and keeping you in reserve. Move on you don't need to tolerate that from anyone.

[Homegirl 50]

I agree with positive parent.
He is with her because he wants to be and is keep you as back up.
If he is all about family he would not be talking you on the side saying he can't wait to see you. Heck he could have stayed with you and still be a dad to this baby. He chose not to.
You need to leave him alone and get on with your life.
You've only been with him for a month you probably don't know him as well as you thought.

[talaniman]

Harshness warning



If he was big on family, he wouldn't be with her, and keeping you on the back burner. What happens with Mr. Big on family when the child is born, and he is really needed? Come on, you know how sad it is to see someone falling for that kind of BS, after only a month? That's really sad. But she is falling for his lines too, so you both have something in common, except no matter what you do, she will always be there to have him do the family thing, so I wonder where you fit in the grand scheme of things?