[i_miss_him]

I have recently split up with Daz (the one I love! ), but the problem is I didn't mean 2 split up with him... I was angry and I just shouted it was over and now I really want him back but he is having none of it and wants 2 not have anything 2 do with each other.
He keeps saying I don't care about anyone but myself which isn't rue... I love him and I love his family as if they were my own ! But he just doesn't want to get back with me... when I asked him if he still cared about me he said he didn't know at the moment as he was in shock because of me saying what I said but I keep telling him I don't mean it, but no-one seems to want to listen to me anymore.
To top it all off... I used to slit my wrists and I have the urge to do it again because I feel depressed and I can't stop crying. I don't want to slit my wrists again but every time I think about Daz I have an urge to do it.
It has been a day since I split up with him but to me it seems like forever and I want to get back with him soon. We often used to split up over petty things but this is a big thing and usually he doesn't go a night without ringing me saying he loves me... the last two days he hasn't said it at all and I was thinking he didn't like me until he gave me a kiss... I am only 14 but I thought I had found true love and now look what has happened... you have to help me please I am begging please!!



Thank you xxx

[valinors_sorrow]

Oh my gosh, sweetie, you have lots of time yet to find out who you are and then find who you are meant to be with. Don't be so quick to think that all is lost-- its not, really its not. I know that growing up is often hard and you are stuck figuring out what to do sometimes but doing things that you shouldn't do. But it will get easier, I promise.

Let the boy be for now. Learn the lesson of what sorrow poor communication and impulsive over-reacting brings you--- it's a worthy lesson to learn. And know that it will be okay, just hang in there and you'll see how it really does all work out. Reach out to your friends, focus on school, plan your career, be more than the girl who went with Daz, as thrilling as that was for a while. You are so much more, and you sound like you don't even know that yet. :)

[wizzkid89]

Val I have to spread it around some more... sorry

Along with the great advice given here by val, it should be noted that cutting your wrists was never the right thing to do in the first place, and you obviously know that. But instead of thinking about going back to it, in your time of pain and sorrow look to express it through writing, music, art, or some kind of physical activity. This allows you to get out your frustration in a positive manner and its something that you can do for any situation that brings you down, not just this one. Look to do something that will not hurt you(cutting) and find something that's constructive that can ease your pain and frustation. Again I would recommend some kind of art, writing, music, or physical activity. Good luck.

[addy]

Don't keep calling him;no matter how much you want to, it won't help things.If you must talk to him, try to talk to him in person.Do not slit your wrists, it ain't going to bring him back, it ill just give hiom another reason not to get back together with you, so if you really want him, show him that you aren't going to destroy yourself without him so he doesn't feel like he has to be with you.