[jteems92]

I'm madly in love with this girl and have been for many years now. We had a relationship about 4 years ago and have been great friends since it ended. I mean we talk on the phone for at least two hours every night and I just don't know how to come out and tell he that I love her. I'm scared that I've now waited to long and its just become a bestfriends thing for her. How can I truly figure out if she is still interested and that I love her without being to blunt and forward about it?

[Jake2008]

There is only one answer to this question, particularly in light of the fact that you have known her so well, for so long.

You tell her.

It isn't an easly thing to do, but you have probably waited far too long already, so wasting more time won't get you anywhere.

The next time you go somewhere together, alone, maybe a park, or to the beach, or out for coffee, tell her you have something that's been on your mind, and you need to tell her something. Then tell her you have fallen in love with her.

Allow her time to process what you have said, and see how she reacts. After such a good frienship, she shouldn't be surprised that this has happened.

Good luck to you, I hope that she feels the same way.

[I wish]

Maybe outright saying that you "love" her is too much.

Why not be truthful and say that you care for her more than a friend that you would like to pursue a romantic relationship. Obviously you would choose your own words, but that's the general idea.

Look at it this way, if you continue to drag this out, you will always wonder what if? What if you really do become a couple? How great would it be? Would you regret not telling her your feelings when she finds someone else?

If you get rejected, you will recover one day, but at least you won't be wondering anymore.

The way I see it is, regret can drag around with you for a very long time, maybe even forever. But rejection is temporary. You can heal from rejection and find happiness elsewhere.

[redhed35]

I agree with the othe posters,what have you got too lose.

If she meets someone else and he sweeps her off her feet,what then,its too late to express your feelings then.

OK,so she may not feel the same,but at least you will know and you won't have regrets.

[talaniman]

Your friends talk to her, and be honest. I assume she is not seeing any one else.

What broke you up before?

[Homegirl 50]

Now that's a good question. Why did you break up?

Or you sure it's romantic love or are you just comfortable with her? Were you still in love with her when you broke up or has this rekindled?
The only way to handle this is to just tell her how you feel.