[kitkat237]

I'm asking this to ask for help, my nephews live with my sister in law and her boyfriend! The boyfriend is the father of my two nephews. The oldest is 3 and the youngest is just 1. I worry about my sister in law, because her mood swing are very alarming. One minute she's fine and loves playing with the kids, but the next the oldest will do something wrong ( sometimes that wrong will just be throwing a ball in the house) and she'll go nut's! Screaming and shouting at him! She's walked out of her parents house so many times, screaming and shouting that her parents might as well take and look after the kids because she's going to go wrap her car around a tree and kill herself, the first time she did that the oldest was only 3 weeks old! I've spoken to her parents about my worry, but they feel if the brought it up then she probably would go do all the things she says she's going to do! They live there lives about my sister in law, to keep her happy and maybe alive.
She working 4 days a week in a fish and chip shop, and her parents have to look after the kids, because my sister in laws boyfriend doesn't want to. And if she can't get her parents to look after the kids, then she will take them to work with her to the fish and chip, that can't be a safe place to keep a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old.
We worry about my oldest nephew because he can be very violent, he will jump, kick, hit and do anything to his younger brother if someone isn't watching him every second! And when we tell him off for doing this stuff to his younger brother, he will scream no, or hit us, or just laugh at us and keep doing it. We have tried the naughty chair, locking him in a spare room at his grandparents house, that has no toys or anything in it, and he will just pick up whatever he can find and throw it against the wall.
The house my nephew live in, oh it is somewhere children should be no where near, the wood floor are always dirty with food, and toys, dirty cloths, u HAVE to watch where you walk.
Because you don't know what you could stand on. The father is always watching porn of violent videos on the internet. And the 3 yr old stand there and watches to. I'm scared of what the father also does in front of the 3 yr old, because he already knows what it is to play with himself, and if his around little girls or friends daughter, he he knows what it is to kiss (passionly) and to rub up against a girl and make moaning sounds.
The kitchen would make someone sick, it always has a massive hill of dirty dishes, the floor are covered in dried rubbed in food, the isn't a clean surface. There are dirty cloths everywhere. And my 1 yr nephew walks and plays in it.
My sister in law and her boyfriend fight so much, over everything! And they do it in front of the kids. The 3 yr old will sit in the corner and scream and cry no more. And the 1 yr ld will just watch and ccry because of the screaming. The boyfriend will punch walls if he doesn't get his own way and puts holes in them. And the 3 yr old watches this, then he thinks it OK to do himself.
The boyfriend doesn't work, and doesn't want to work, and he thinks its OK to buy $200 jumpers and shoes for himself, before putting food on the table. So does the mother , she will take her mother shopping for cloths and everything for the kids and excepts her mother to pay for it all, and then she'll take her food shopping, and buy crap, nothing that the kids should be eating, just chips and dip, lollies and sweet. No veggies, nothing healthy! I need help, what am I meant to do, I want to call DHS but if they take the kids, me and my family may never see them again, and the mother might kill her self. I'm losted.

[JudyKayTee]

If the situation is as desperate as you say it is SOMEONE has to speak for and possibly save the children - you have two choices. Do nothing and hope everything turns out all right and feel guilty if it does not OR do something that causes an agency to look into the situation.

Some of what you have posted is, quite frankly, not related to the treatment the children receive. If her mother pays for clothes for the children, why does it matter as long as the children have clothes?

I don't know why you think if DHS takes custody of the children you will never see them again. That is not true. If DHS does take custody you or a family member who is financially and emotionally stable could apply for custody.

You have to decide what is best for those children and who will speak for children too young to speak for themselves - and that's what matters here.

How old, by the way, are you? I gather by the spelling that you are quite young.

And where is the father in all of this drama? If the parents feed off each other perhaps they should simply get away from each other.

And what about the father of the third child? Where is he?

[JudyKayTee]

Kitkat237 WHAT do you disagree with? That somebody should protect these children?

Or do you think this is a healthy environment for them and so you think the suggestion that the parents separate is bad?

Or do you think that DHS really will take the children and you'll never see them again?

I have no idea why people ask questions, particularly questions with legal implications, when they have their minds made up and don't want to listen to either the law or reason.

So do nothing and let the kids suffer, hope the mother doesn't kill them along with herself - I assume that's the answer you want to hear?

I don't know where you are - in some States/Countries it's a CRIME not to report child abuse, the same abuse you are complaining about and doing nothing to solve.

I note that you are pregnant, your boyfriend is conflicted about the pregnancy, you don't know what to do. Would you want your child to live in these conditions or would you want someone to step in and help him/her? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...nt-486661.html

[kitkat237]

I don't disagree. Not once did I say I disagreed. I want help here, and your not. I wanted HELPFUL advice and the best you can say is that " i hope the mother doesnt kill the kids along with her self."
If you don't know what your talking about don't reply, becau

[Cat1864]

It sounds like she is stressed and taking it out on the children.

Only she can relieve any of the stress she is under. She has to want to get out of the situation she is in.

Getting the authorities involved may not be what you want, but it is the best thing for the children and her. The rest of the family and the parents have been thinking about themselves and putting their desires over those of the children. Time for that to stop.

I don't want to have to read about either of those children the way I am this baby:
FIRST ON WITN: Autopsy Says Toddler Died From Head Trauma

[martinizing2]

There is no question. Some sort of intervention is essential for the well being of everyone involved.

Conditions as you describe demand any responsible person with knowledge like this DO SOMETHING! Now.

The result may be hard to deal with, but the results of doing nothing have a 99% chance of being dramatically worse. Make that 100%. This is a disaster waiting to happen.

The safety and health , both physical and mental , of the children is paramount. The parents need help also.

Make the call ASAP you may be saving all of them.