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CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 05:56 AM

Threads merged, please stop creating new threads about the same issue.

It seems like its impossible for me to get a boyfriend. I'm going into 8th grade and I'm a major tomboy (I do have a girly side but I hate showing it), I play guitar, sports(like karate, volleyball, football, and soccer), and love hardrock, metal, and rap. I just wonder why most guys act like they like me but won't ask me out or anything. (I'd prefer a guy to answer my question but anyone who has advice give it 2 me)
But, last year when it seemed everyone was hooking up and stuff this one guy acted like he liked me and said he did but at The Graduation Dance I asked him to dance and he just laughed in my face and walked away. Can anyone explain to me why some guys do that?

redhed35 · Jul 6, 2010, 06:50 AM

I think its great that you know what you like and go for it,I also think its good that you had the guts to ask a guy to dance,well done you,most girls/boys would shy away from doing that,I think it shows great confidence.

You would seem to have lots of interests and sound like a well adjusted and busy girl.

Now tell me,if a guy can't see that,why bother with him,there are guys will see you for you and be interested,you just have not met them yet,don't change,keep working on your own interests and hobbies,by the time 'your' guy shows up,your going to be one amazing girl.

jmjoseph · Jul 6, 2010, 07:33 AM

If the guys " act like they like me " then they do. Remember that.

I have to ask, how do you act around your guy friends? Do you feel caught up in their "guy world"?

You say that you're a tomboy. Do you hang out with girls, and do "girlie" things at all?

Do you feel like a pretty girl on the inside?

I have two young sons. IF I had a daughter, I would want her to be like you. Smart, tough, artistic, atheletic, and independent. I'm sure that your parents are proud of you.

Don't worry about the guys' attitude. If they see you as "one of them", they won't feel comfortable showing affection towards you in front of their peers. That's the way that we're wired at that age.

If you want them to notice you, then just be yourself.

AND most importantly, you are still quite young. Give it time.

Just wait, you'll be on here in a couple of years asking us how to get the guys to give you a break.

I wish you the best of luck.

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 08:08 AM

Thanks a lot :D. I really like your second to last sentence. Hahah lol

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 08:15 AM

Thanks! I have asked guys to dance before at regular dances. The guy I liked since 6th grade, I danced with him (in 6th and 7th) and he said that he liked me. But, then I learned he was laughing at me behind my back and it hurt and I cried for the fi

redhed35 · Jul 6, 2010, 08:29 AM

CallofDutyQueen100 : Thanks! I have asked guys to dance before at regular dances. The guy I liked since 6th grade, I danced with him (in 6th and 7th) and he said that he liked me. But, then I learned he was laughing at me behind my back and it hurt and I cried for the fi

That guy was a jerk,and of course you were hurt,anyone would be,but now you know he's a jerk and was not worth your tears.

You will get hurt again,and there will be other guys that will make you cry,BUT,its not all bad news,there will be great guys and great loves in your life,but there is no rush,you have a lot going for you.

I know its hard when it seems everyone has a boyfriend,but are they all happy,for 2 weeks maybe!

When you have other interests other then guys,you have leverage and an advantage other girls don't,you can take your time and choose wisely,and not get caught up in the drama of a 2 week 'relationship'.

Enjoy your interests and activities,the happier you are in yourself,the more attractive you will be to guys and girls.( girls will want to know your secret,why your happy)

Happy people attract other happy people.

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 08:36 AM

There's this guy from my karate class. I used to like him and I know he likes me. My other friend tells me he's crazy about me. He's even told me himself. But, the thing is I really don't like him anymore and Talking to him while I'm on vacation and he's bugging me I realize why I don't like him he's clingy and annoying. Anyway how do I tell him I don't like him without sounding like a b***h and hurting him? Or should I stick it out till I get home and try to be more patient and give him a chance?

redhed35 · Jul 6, 2010, 08:40 AM

Honesty is the best policy,if your not interested tell him straight,you don't have to be mean,but don't sugar coat it either.

Don't say anything that might lead him to believe there may be a chance down the line.

ISneezeFunny · Jul 6, 2010, 08:40 AM

Either way, you'll hurt him. Now or later. He'll take it badly. However, it'll be a learning experience for you and him.

I'm seeing that you have two options: You either wait around to see if you'll start liking him again, or you'll end it here and now. My perspective: you'll find him more and more annoying as time goes by because his clinginess will get worse.

Tell him that you don't feel the same way about him, and you'd much rather just be friends.

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 08:42 AM

Thanks. Good advice.

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 08:44 AM

Thanks. I appreciate the help on both of my questions. :) <<sry I like smiley faces

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 09:05 AM

Srry I "disagreed" to your answere I pressed the wrong button. Lol :P

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 09:12 AM

Yeah. Thanks. I know I sound to young to have a "heartbreak" as my parents say. But I guess its in my nature to give out my heart easily...

redhed35 · Jul 6, 2010, 09:16 AM

As you grow up you will learn about bounderies and protecting your heart, a soft heart is a lovely trait,protect it and be careful who you trust with it.

Your experience is all part and parcel of growing up and learning about boys and relationships,don't be too hard on yourself,everyone has to/had to go through it.

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 10:00 AM

Hey again guys. Ok, so there's this guy I've liked for awhile since 6th grade and I'm just now starting to get over him. Anyway, for awhile it seemed like we could have had a relationship but it didn't work out well. I soon came to reality and reliezed we'd probably never get together. So, I just got over him for awhile. (This guy has made me cry a lot) But at The 7th and 8th Grade Graduation Dance. My friend hooked me up to slowdance with the guy I used to like and by the slow dance it was her dancing with him and me crying in the bathroom. But, afterwards she came and told me he really did like me but the only reason keeping us apart is that last time we went out or danced at a school dance all his friends and the other guys said we were dating and I guess he didn't like that so he won't go out with me because of that. My question is should I let him go or keep holding on? (This is the guy who has made me cry so much but I liked him so much I almost loved him. Especially after our unofficial date. We were holding hands and everything... ) Anyone answer please. I need help...

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 10:43 AM

I'm going into 8th grade and a huge tomboy, I play guitar, sports(like volleyball, football, and soccer), and love hardrock, metal, and rap. I just wonder why most guys act like they like me but don't ever ask me out. Is being a tomboy keeping me on the guys'"Friend" list and not on the "I Might Date Her" list. I'm open to all comments and suggestions but I'd prefer a guy to answer. Thanks!

EmoPrincess · Jul 6, 2010, 10:44 AM

You are in 8th grade, you are too young for dating. Just enjoy being a kid

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 10:52 AM

I'm going into 8th grade and I'm a huge tomboy, I play guitar, sports (like volleyball, football, karate and soccer), and love hardrock, metal, and rap. I also wear little to no make-up. The fanciest I get is lipgloss. I just wonder is being a total tomboy keeping me on the guys' "Friends" list and not on the "I Might Date Her" list? I'm open to all suggestions and comments but I'd prefer a guy to answer. Thanks! Also when I do dress up (like for the 7th and 8th grade Graduation Dance) people aren't used to seeing me dressed up and all the guys' jaws drop. So I'm wondering if I should back off the tomboyishness? Anyone please answer that question

Kitkat22 · Jul 6, 2010, 11:10 AM

Be true to yourself and be yourself. Don't change who you are to try to please anyone else. The time will come and you'll grow out of the tomboy stage and you'll love being a girly girl.

I think the boys probably like you just as you are!

I'm not a boy but my daughter went through the same stage. She outgrew it.

CallofDutyQueen100 · Jul 6, 2010, 11:12 AM

Threads merged, please stop creating new threads about the same issue.

It seems like its impossible to get a boyfriend. I'm going into 8th grade and I'm a huge tomboy, I play guitar, sports(like volleyball, football, and soccer), and love hardrock, metal, and rap. I just wonder why most guys act like they like me but won't ask me out or anything. (A guy please answer my question)
But, last year when it seemed everyone was hooking up and stuff this one guy acted like he liked me and said he did but at The Graduation Dance I asked him to dance and he just laughed. Can anyone explain to me why some guys do that and are such b******s?