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jallebi · Jul 4, 2010, 04:01 AM

Hi I am from Lucknow, I am in love with a boy from Delhi.. even he is also in love with me other but the problem is that am not that girl, whom I portrayed to him earlier for fun.. but gradually I fell in love with him.. we speak to each other daily without fail.. but now the truth pinches me and I feel quite guilty for what I did with him.. I don't want to loose.. he is a wonderful guy.. what should I do... please help me.. I can't play with his feelings anymore I want him to know whom I am actually.. I did try to tell him many times gave hints but he completely trust me... I know I did a very wrong thing with him.. he already had a broken relation in past... I love him very much.. cannot live without him.. we haven't met yet but he wants to meet.. am really upset for what ever I did.. but I feel haunted to loose him.. please help me... :((

redhed35 · Jul 4, 2010, 04:06 AM

You need to be honest with him,and the fallout of that conversation may be that he feels you lied to him and he may feel misled.

The best thing to do is be honest,really,he is going to find out anyway if you meet,the earlier you tell him,maybe he will understand,if you don't tell him and he finds out, and the truth always comes out,he may decide you are not honerable and untrustworty.

Come clean,be honest.

redhed35 · Jul 4, 2010, 04:17 AM

Ill keep my fingers crossed,being open and honest is so important in any relationship and especially at the beginning.

For your own emotional health,if he decides not to pursue a relationship with you,learn from this.

talaniman · Jul 4, 2010, 06:33 AM

You must tell him the full truth, no matter what, because sooner or later he will learn of your lie, and feel betrayed.

positiveparent · Jul 4, 2010, 07:41 AM

You need to confess all to him and right now or asap, the longer you leave it the harder it'll be.

In future you will have to learn that if you tell one lie it will lead to another, and depending on how much or how badly you've lied to him will determine if he goes or stays.

You need to accept though that because you've lied to him telling him the truth means you risk losing him, and you've only yourself to blame, always be honest with people, the truth will always stand the test of time, lies will leave you caught up in a web of deceit.

Ill be hoping he understands, but go tell him the truth now. Don't leave it any longer. Also apologise to him for your deeds. Don't try to jusitify yourself.

He just might be a forgiving type.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 4, 2010, 08:01 AM

There is no way that the truth will not come out. You are the one who decided to go down this path. So your only two choices are to
1. tell the truth
2. drop him and move on.

Also if you have not been 100 percent truthful, he is in "love" with the person you represented, not really with you. So to find real love there has to be total truth