[lorainetawnica]

hey umm so here's how it goes.. . I have seen a lot of answered questions just like this but my situiation is quite different and I would really apreciate any advice :)))

first time I saw my boyfriend I didn't actually think that I would like him... were in a band together along with my other 2 best friends but I'm still not in high school ^_^ at first I know he actually liked my best friend and I know that because he admitted it... now what happens is my best friend is too confident now she knows that he likes her and started doing stuff like flirting with him and all that but the truth is she doesn't really like him, I feel pretty sad about him that he likes her and she doesn't like him back and all she does is giving signs like "its ok to ask me out because i like you back" but the truth is she doesn't... (lyk she just PLAYING around with him!) it doesn't really matter to me at first but the time that we started to hang out and laugh together and all that it kindda made me like him... then I just heard that he asked my best friend if she likes him but my best friend said yea but only as a friend and I felt really sad for him. Then yea he said that he will rather go out with me than her and he said he used to like her but not anymore... then before da day ended he just randomly said do you want to go out with me and I said yea sure because I thought it was all sarcasim but its actually real, so we started going out and my bestfried knows about it and all she does now is make some moves with him like flirt with him and it seems like she's stealing him away because she can be really competitive with me and I just know she thinks that maybe he will like me again because he used to like me... every time I just see her do it for me its pretty obvious that he still have feelings for her.(then why won't he dump me and go owt with her? but obviously we both know that she'll turn him down).. but still I don't get why she's doing it on purpose and she thinks soooo high about herself... I don't want it to stress me anymore... do you guys think that I should just break up with him since it seems to me that he doesn't really mean it? Right now I know I'm the only one who can think about what right things I should do for myself but I'm just really confused and hurt at the same time :)) I just go with the flow because I know that she won't do anything about it if I tell her because that's what happened last time with my ex as well but now its worst... I would be really thankfull for some advice right now but not just about my boyfriend can also be about my best friend if you think she's really a TRUE friend:))) TNX =))

[aimee_tt]

One. You need to talk with this boyfriend tell him how you feel and see what he says. He may still have feelings for her. But he may also have feelings for you.

Two. This so called 'bestfriend' wouldn't be trying to flirt with your boyfriend if she really was your best friend.

Talk to your boyfriend and see what he says.

Talk to your best friend and tell her either she stops or loses you as a friend and see how she reacts.

[talaniman]

I think its between you, and your boyfriend to put up a united front, and not let her antics come between you. Talk to each other about what she is doing.

You may think she is a friend, but I really don't think so. At least not a respectful one who stays within the boundaries of good behavior.