[sad1ssh]

My boyfriend and his baby mother are broke up, she lives downsouth with there 2 kids. My boyfriend went down there to get them and bring them back up so he could spend time with them. She was scheduled to come get them a month later. The month later comes and she decides she going to stay at his house until she can find away back home. A month has already came and went an she's still there. He says he has no control because its his mother house. But I am very p*$## about the situation. What should I do? He swore to his kids he has nothing to do with her and he pretty much is with me everyday, its when I'm at work that I'm worried about?

Just another quick question.

What should you think when your boyfriends children's mother seems like she still want him?

[talaniman]

How long have you been seeing each other in this relationship? I do understand your concerns, I would be leery of such an arrangement myself, and it seems he would just take her back just like he went and got her, but that's probably hard with the kids and the grandmother.

I think you pay really close attention for now as depending on how well you know and trust each other, this could be as he says, just temporary because she needs a ride. Doesn't he work too? Do you know his mother? Do you know the girl or have you met the kids? All these are factors to consider.

More info is needed, but I certainly share your concerns and would probably give him whatever money it takes to get her back home. Wonder how he would react to that kind of offer from you?

[Jake2008]

Those poor kids.

I wonder if you realize that your boyfriend and his 'baby mama' are harming their children? With her being there a month with their father, what do you think they are feeling- that their parents are together again? I would.

Then to add to it, daddy has a girlfriend too. And, for some reason, daddy still lives with his mommy.

I would say that you should leave this toxic situation, and not get involved.

That the 'baby mama' is still there, and welcomed into the home where daddy lives with his mommy, you are left in a place where, at best, you are in 4th place, behind the kids, 'baby mama', grandma, and him.

What kind of relationship do you think you have, while he hangs onto his mother's apron strings with one hand, and his 'baby mama' with the other.

To get involved with this can come to no good for you. My advice is to get out while you can.