Am I being used?

born2love · Jun 29, 2010, 05:34 PM

OK my boyfriend just left from my house like 30 minutes ago. I was so glad that I saw him because I haven't seen him in weeks because schools over :( we would talk through the phone saying how much we miss each other and can't wait to see each other. Today he finally came but said he would only be here for a little bit. We kissed and hugged and cuddled. Then out of no where he took out a condom. I told him we should wait, because we've done it before, but I want a relationship based off sex. Well anyway we ended up doing it, and I'm not saying it wasn't great, but then out of no where he ride was outside beeping. It was all happening quick. I was soooo happy to see him but it only seems he came to my house for sex. Is this true? I need to know if I'm being used!!

acnaibgrant · Jun 29, 2010, 05:41 PM

From the sound of it babe yes it does seem that way, or maybe there is more to the story that you do not know about and maybe you all have had a some type of miscommunication.

born2love · Jun 29, 2010, 06:22 PM

Originally Posted by acnaibgrant

From the sound of it babe yes it does seem that way, or maybe there is more to the story that you do not know about and maybe you all have had a some type of miscommunication.

Yes true, but to be it sound like I was just used. Because he told me how much he missed me and how much he wants to see me and now that we saw each other. He wants to (you know). And all I wanted was to talk and what has happened since we haven't seen each other. We hardly even talked, mostly just actiion :"(

Cat1864 · Jun 29, 2010, 06:55 PM

If you say no and he pressures you into having sex, then you need to dump him. He isn't caring about your feelings. He is showing that he cares only about getting off.

That he seems to have known just how much time he had, but didn't tell you sounds like he had his plans set before he got there.

You can try talking to him, but I have a feeling that if you want more than sex, he will be gone.

positiveparent · Jun 29, 2010, 07:59 PM

I would think he used you and as stated already he had his lift home planned almost to perfection.

Don't have anything more to do with him, you aren't a convenience, don't let him turn you into one...

Kitkat22 · Jun 29, 2010, 08:00 PM

Originally Posted by Cat1864

If you say no and he pressures you into having sex, then you need to dump him. He isn't caring about your feelings. He is showing that he cares only about getting off.

That he seems to have known just how much time he had, but didn't tell you sounds like he had his plans set before he got there.

You can try talking to him, but I have a feeling that if you want more than sex, he will be gone.

It's true! It hurts, but you need to do as Cat said... try talking to him. I fear he may be using you for one thing. Sorry

talaniman · Jun 30, 2010, 07:09 PM

Well we know what he missed. How absolutely crude. What is he? A cave man?

Kitkat22 · Jun 30, 2010, 07:12 PM

He sounds like a Neanderthal who takes no one else or their feelings into account. Lose him.

Lucky098 · Jun 30, 2010, 08:27 PM

I would think for this case.. actions speak louder then words.

If you missed someone and couldn't stop talking to that person for weeks on end.. would you honestly spend a half an hour with that person, and have SOMEONE ELSE pick you up from their house?

He totally used you. He could have at the very least told you he had plans.

You need to dump him.

Kitkat22 · Jun 30, 2010, 08:30 PM

Originally Posted by Lucky098

I would think for this case.. actions speak louder then words.

If you missed someone and couldnt stop talking to that person for weeks on end.. would you honestly spend a half an hour with that person, and have SOMEONE ELSE pick you up from their house??

He totally used you. He could have at the very least told you he had plans.

You need to dump him.

He certainly did use her!

born2love · Jul 10, 2010, 07:21 PM

I hope you guys arnt right. I'm still with him. And I love him sooo much! We talked about it and he said that's not all he wanted. And he was upset for me thinking that. Do you guys honestly think he used me. Just the truth that's all I need. Thank you.

talaniman · Jul 10, 2010, 07:38 PM

I think we all are being honest with you, and I still think he is a selfish, inconsiderate cave man.

You don't have to take our word for it because if you don't give him enough of your body, and try talking to him, about how you feel about things, bet he gets really pizzed, and frustrated. Bet he can't even make love to your mind, can he?

Kitkat22 · Jul 10, 2010, 07:44 PM

He'll keep using you as a bed buddy until he gets tired of you and moves on to another gullible woman.

Cat1864 · Jul 10, 2010, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by born2love

i hope you guys arnt right. im still with him. and i love him sooo much! we talked about it and he said that's not all he wanted. and he was upset for me thinking that. do you guys honestly think he used me. just the truth thats all i need. thankyou.

May I ask how old the two of you are?

When did you talk to him about it? Were texts. Emails, and/or the phone involved or did you talk in person? If it was in person, after he assured you he wanted more than sex, did it turn into sex instead of stopping at talking?

Has he shown you any signs that he wants to do anything other than have sex?

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