[daddymommyluv]

Hi everyone!
I really need help for my problem, please help! It maybe quite long, but please bare with me...

My mom is a taiwanese & my dad is a burmese. They are from different country. When my dad was a university student, he went to Taiwan to continue his education & this is where the story starts. He met my mom & they fell in love. They got married.

As my dad is from Myanmar, he of course wanted to go back to his hometown to live. My mom then followed him. I was only 2 years old.

My mom wasn't happy there. Myanmar is an underdeveloped country while Taiwan is a well-developed country. My mom couldn't speak Myanmar language and didn't like the environment in Myanmar. My dad was poor that time and could not even afford a phone. My mom would sob and wail at night. My dad knew that it was a hard time for my mom. He treated my mom very well.

As time passed, my dad company started to earn more money and we started to become more rich. We had cars, handphones, PSP, Wii,. etc... And now, me and my sister are in Singapore for our further education. Now, me and my sister are not with our parents as we are in Singapore.

However, I wish my dad didn't earn that much... Why? Because he changed. My dad had changed throughout the years. Although he still treats me & my sister very well, he didn't treat my mom as well as before... He would sometimes insult my mom for fun. I know that my dad still loves my mom, but I just cannot agree with my dad for insulting my mom.

My mom enjoys playing. She has a bunch of friends who had divorced or who are single. My dad doesn't like them. He asked my mom to stay away from those friends. BUT, my mom only have those friends who are playful (whom my mom can get along with)...

My mom wants to go back to Taiwan. She really really wants. Even though she went back to Taiwan once a year. Last time she went there, she went to a fortune-teller.

This was what the fortune-teller said...
"You will be married to a very far away country... your living condition will gets better ( which mean my mom will become more rich and rich)... BUT you will start to feel lonely and depressed. Sooner or later, you will get Melancholia (A mental disease with the symptoms of depression, slow reactions or anxiety, followed by insomnia and loss of appetite)... You will not die from disease... you will commit suicide one day... "

My mom told me about that when i went back to Myanmar during recent holidays. I was really shocked. I tried to encourage my mom but it didn't make any changes.

i remember my mom said: " I really wants to go back to Taiwan and stay with my family. Your dad is at home only at night... you and your sister are not here with me... My mom and sister want me to go back too. I've got nothing to do here; no freedom at all... if I could divorce with your dad when you and your sister grow up, I would go back to Taiwan and live for the rest of my life... Maybe,. one day, like what the fortune-teller told me, I will commit suicide... "

If I agree with my mom to go back to Taiwan, my dad will be alone! But if my mom continues to stay in Myanmar, she will suffer!!

I don't know what to do!! I could sleep for days and I keep thinking of this... I really want a solution where both my parents can enjoy their live... I love both of them... So please HELP!! Thanks

[JudyKayTee]

They are the only two people inside this marriage, the only two who know what is best for both of them. I think all children want their parents to stay married but sometimes that is not best for the parents.

If your father ends up alone it may very well be due to his behavior - if he sort of forces your mother to go.

I am surprised that your mother is basing her decisions on a fortune teller. Aren't you?

Perhaps they could try counselling, either alone or together - if they care enough to keep trying.

[daddymommyluv]

They are the only two people inside this marriage, the only two who know what is best for both of them. I think all children want their parents to stay married but sometimes that is not best for the parents.

If your father ends up alone it may very well be due to his behavior - if he sort of forces your mother to go.

I am surprised that your mother is basing her decisions on a fortune teller. Aren't you?

Perhaps they could try counselling, either alone or together - if they care enough to keep trying.

But what the fortune-teller said was somehow true from what he said; my mom was married to a far away place, her living condition does get better and better, and she is getting to feel lonely and depressed. Therefore I can't don't care of what the fortune-teller said. :(

[marma]

Hi there,,

Your problem is really normal don't worry, and about the fortune teller, I call her the nonfortune teller :), they do it for money, they have their own secret ways to know about their customers history and make up future stories that sound so alive,, so you should not care about anything from what the " fortune teller " said,, if they really were predictable then believe me they would have known and predicted where is the best place to get money without doing what they are doing as a job to lie on customers or say things and make them sound so real,


My dear, a break is really great for both your parents ;),, they will both enjoy and will miss each other, and one thing leads to another,

God created us with great belief and faith, be happy and insist on enjoying every second with your mom and your dad, and every bad thing will just fade away, and you'll enjoy the happy moments ;*,


I really want to help you, my email is : >Removed<


A persons health depends 50% on his mood, so you should all at least act happy in front of your parents without letting them know about your real feelings and they will feel great about you guys, which will reflect a great feeling on you and your sister as wel ;),

[JudyKayTee]

It is against AMHD rules to take a discussion off the board - no one learns anything that way and the site becomes one big chat board. I am rapidly reaching the conclusion that you are in fact spamming the Board.

[daddymommyluv]

Wow, I just feel a sense of relieve after reading the advices :D Thanks a LOT to JudyKayTee & Marma ;) I guess I will be able to have a good rest now :)