[sincin1959]

He is trying to say she just happen to show up there. But she has never been there before. I think he told her to go there. What is your opinion? Going Crazy

[pandead]

Why would he tell that girl to go somewhere if he is going there with you? Why would he have a "fling" if he is with you? What do you mean by "fling"?

[sincin1959]

Well we have been together 3 yrs and just recently he has been with another girl. Well I found it weird that her and her friends were there and to me it was set up. When I got ugly he got mad at me like I was crazy

[parisrose]

Why are you even with him, if he has been cheating on you??

[sincin1959]

I hate to have to end 3yrs. Of my life but I know I have to. He will not admit he did anything with her but I have proof. Why is it that he says Im ruining a good thing , when it was he who did it?

[parisrose]

He is being selfish and denying he did anything. If you know 100% he cheated then I would break it off. You say you'd hate to end 3 years of you life, but it going to make the next year a lot better.

If he's lying about cheating he's probably lied about a lot of other things, he doesn't respect you, he is a liar, break it off with him. Don't worry about him saying you are ruining anything, because he already ruined it, your just finishing it.

[sincin1959]

You are right and I am doing that tonight. Its just so hard when you are with them everyday doing things together then they're gone and you feel so alone . What really is maddiening is the girl knew we were together and I feel like she wins. Don't women have any morals today?

[parisrose]

Good choice, make sure to read the stickies at the top of this forum. There are a lot of great tips about NC and getting over someone.

Believe me she hasn't won! If anything you have won! How would she win because she may get a guy who is a cheater?? Don't worry about this other girl, she is nothing to you.

[Fr_Chuck]

Let me see , he arranged to have a girl come and show up so you would get mad ? Sorry don't believe it. I think she may be stalking him perhaps, and next how do you know she does not go there, are you stalking her? She may go there every week, you really don't know.

The issue here is what did he do when she was there, ignore her or invite her to the table.

[talaniman]

I think she was intending you to get mad and dump him so she could have him. Was he in on it? I doubt it.

Wonder what proof you have? Dump him, too much drama even if he is telling the truth.

[positiveparent]

I agree I don't think it was a set up but if he has cheated and you can as you say prove it then what are you waiting around for, Him to do it again, Sos you can be doubly sure.

Use yourself respect and leave him, its better to have 3 years of past memories than 30 years of future heartaches, cut loose and leave them to it, or expect to find he's done it again, and again and again.

Apart from this you've no idea what little viruses he may just be good enough to share with you both. There's an STD epidemic out there you know. Not all of them are noticeable either...

[Jake2008]

Somehow, the 'fling' knew where he was going to be. I wonder who told her.

I don't know what the circumstances of the fling was, or if it lasted one night, or three months, or is still ongoing.

I'd say there is a good chance he is still in touch with her.