[Lions741]

My boyfreind and his ex are in a custody battle. We are moving in together and right now he has joint custody of his 4 year old daughter so his daughter is with us for 3 days a week. I have full custody of my 3 year old son and everyone gets along great. His ex still wants him back and she doesn't want to understand that my boyfriend has moved on so she tries endlessly to complicate our relationship, which isn't working for her, but she's persistent in making his life very stressful. So far we have gotten through everything she has thrown at us with success. She has recently found out that we are planning to move in together and she says she doesn't want their 4 yr old daughter to share a room with my 3 yr old son. To save up money to move to a 3 bedroom, we are planning to stay in the 2 bedroom apt for about 6 more months. So I'm just wondering if she has any standing with this especially since there hasn't been any problems with them sleeping in the same room so far and what we should do to avoid a conflict.

[twinkiedooter]

She may decide to try to take him to court over this situation but the children being that young and the situation would be for only 6 months, then there should not be a problem over this. Also, make sure that you don't have too many people living in one apartment. Have you gotten prior approval on this proposed situation from the landlord? If not, you may just find you and your boyfriend evicted due to too many people in one apartment.

In some counties your temporary arrangement would result in too many people in one apartment and it would be illegal.

Best to check with the landlord to see if it's okay with them before doing anything. And if you did get the go ahead from the landlord be sure to move into the larger apartment as soon as possible to avoid giving the ex any excuse to call Child Protective folks or haul the boyfriend into court. I wouldn't stay in the smaller apt longer than one or two months tops to avoid any repercussions from either the ex, the law, or the Child Protective folks.

You might be best to just move when you've saved the money and can make the move to the 3 bedroom apartment and not have any hassles or court appearances.

[Lions741]

Thank you very much for replying to my question. It has helped :)

[twinkiedooter]

THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR REPLYING TO MY QUESTION. IT HAS HELPED :)

You are most welcome. I hope I outlined every possible option for you so you can decide which option you will take.