[sun70]

Just don't know if we should still be together any more .I do love her but she is to busy in own world and far to strong personality .I am a divorcée with 3 children which are in my life ,she has 2 children from 2 diffident partner 'who did't help her out much .hate to say this when I got divorced I had some money left for a new home and start all over again 'now I find myself at the foot of the table and starting I feel there is not much love.. just need some help .

[I wish]

Your priority should be your children. If you can't have a healthy romantic relationship with someone, then don't force the issue.

Furthermore, it sounds like you have a lot of self-esteem issues. Focus on your children and finding ways to be happy with yourself. You sound like you constantly need another person in your life to be happy.

Once you're happy with yourself, then you will be more attractive to others and things can flow more naturally. As oppose to forcing a relationship.

Finally, as for the current woman that you have been referring to, if she's been divorced twice, then she has a lot of baggage. Are you sure you want to get yourself involved with all that? You already have your own baggage to worry about.

[Devorameira]

IF there's not much love in the relationship, you should definitely get out now. She just may not be the one for you.

Don't be so anxious to be with someone that you settle for less than you want and deserve.

Be patient - there's a great girl out there for you, but you got to get out of this relationship before you'll find her.

[Homegirl 50]

just don't know if we should still be together any more .i do love her but she is to busy in own world and far to strong personality .i am a divorcee with 3 children which are in my life ,she has 2 children from 2 diffident partner 'who did't help her out much .hate to say this when i got divorced i had some money left for a new home and start all over again 'now i find my self at the foot of the table and starting i feel there is not much love ..just need some help .

You don't need help, you need to get out of the relationship you're in. You don't sound happy, so why stay?
Your focus should be on your kids not her. Hers should be on her kids not making you feel like #1 man.
Get into your kids and yourself, I think you will fnd yourself too busy to be worried about her.

[sun70]

Hi Homegirl 50 thank you for your time for my question :) nice to have good reply .

[Homegirl 50]

You're welcome.
I wish you well.

[talaniman]

How long have you been divorced and maybe you are jumping into a new relationship looking to be loved and it ain't happening as you want it too.

You aren't the first person to try and replace the hole in your soul with another, and be disappointed.

You need to be single and on your own for a proper healing to take place, and that could take a lot of time and make a big difference how you see and deal with your reality.

[sun70]

Hello again ,

I have took all your great advicses thank you all' I'm still with my partner at the mo I just can't handle not making any love now I was told concentate more on your children 'which I have does but this lady is in my head so bad my time table *** I need help .


Monday , get up go work .pop in after work to see her make excus to go home and bath ,have dinner on my own don't wonting her to feed me as well as her kids she is a single mother with low wage.phone her I will stay at my own house .

Tues . Work, again pop in before I will pick up my 3 boys drop them back to there mothers home can't back to see my girl cause its her TV night .

Wed same old thing but this time a can stay over night ,I may do she go to bed and puts her drugther to sleep to . I wait to let her son in the house about 11 .so when I go up I must ceep to bed then I just lay a wake for hr.

Thur. boys over drop them pop in 4 10mins just to say good night have to be quick as again this her TV night.

Fri, I may have boys to night or sat nite' if so I will have my food at home then go to hers then it will be some cans if I get them only ,then again watch TV she will not even sat on the same couch ,why don't get this from a girl who loved to cuddle. Wait up for her son to go in Friday night is over .

Sat, got to go home cause sat is her cleaning day don't get in her way .

Sun, I have to cook dinner for all of us and her brother as his wife left him ,I don't mind ,

Point , no love at all and I'm madly in love with the have tried more time with my kids ,just don't feel some kind of love ,I just can't drop the we live in small town every one knows me and we are a good couple. Her family are very happy to see her with me I am indian and she is white .we all get on BUT I JUST NEED LOVE I HAVE TOLD HER I DO NOT NEED TO BEG FOR LOVE . LOOK I PROBERLEY GOT THIS WRONG SOME WHERE BUT IM GOING OUT OF MY MIND...

[redhed35]

If her son is old enough to stay out late could he babysit one evening while you two go the cinema and 2 or 3 hours on your own?

Could you have a kids and both of you family day out?

A picnic in the park? A nice walk?

I'm sure her brother can survive one Sunday without you having to cook.

You seem to be doing a lot of running around.

What is she doing for you?

[talaniman]

Hello again Sun, did it ever occur to talk to her and reach some compromise that works for you both? That's what mature people do. And it seems like she has limited time any way with kids and all, but it starts with talking.

If not getting loving from someone when you need it, or want it drives you crazy, you're in a heap of trouble, and makes one think that's all you want from her. Seems you would have time for other things that guys do somewhere in the mix, but you don't, why is that? That has to beat the 10 minute look ins, and give you something to do and look forward too, besides a female. Its called balance.

Talk dude if you want to make progress, not regrets.

[Homegirl 50]

to is right. You two need to sit down and work out a time table that will be beneficial for both of you. Surly her son or someone can sit with the kids one night and you to can have some time together. If she wants to have time with you, she will find a way.
If she is not willing to do this, maybe she is not into you as much as you are in to her, and you have to decide if you want to continue to go on like this.

[sun70]

if her son is old enough to stay out late could he babysit one evening while you two go the cinema and 2 or 3 hours on your own?

could you have a kids and both of you family day out?

a picnic in the park? a nice walk?

im sure her brother can survive one sunday without you having to cook.

you seem to be doing a lot of running around.

what is she doing for you?

Hi thank for your time . As you say what is she doing for me Not a lot .I do feel if we called it a day some how I may lose out some where... before you say it where Sun .:(

[sun70]

Hello again Sun, did it ever occur to talk to her and reach some compromise that works for you both? Thats what mature people do. And it seems like she has limited time any way with kids and all, but it starts with talking.

If not getting loving from someone when you need it, or want it drives you crazy, you're in a heap of trouble, and makes one think that's all you want from her. Seems you would have time for other things that guys do somewhere in the mix, but you don't, why is that? That has to beat the 10 minute look ins, and give you something to do and look forward too, besides a female. Its called balance.

Talk dude if you want to make progress, not regrets.

Hello My friend thank you again I'm working on talking mind she is of on hoilday with her mother this week coming just have to wait...

Thing I used to do was coach football with lots of team and I did love it but to be honest I lost the love when my so called best friend the other team coach ran off with my x wife.. :rolleyes:

[talaniman]

Hurry and unpack that past baggage, and get back in the groove. The team needs you! :D