Originally Posted by
starsbooty
okay thanks so much for the responses earlier they really help...
now i have been with my boyfriend for 3 almost 4 years. 2 years serious, we both were young and cheated in the past but i can't stop accusing him. he lives with me, we do everything together so what the heck is going on? i dont think he's cheating but i can't help but to say things like, " oh you were probably with some other girl" "why are you lying" when i know hes not...why can't i fully trust him? i want to so bad....:eek:
I assume from what you write that you cheated on each other. I imagine that your inability to trust him stems from what you and he did in the past. I don't think that you have fully forgiven him and you are still dwelling on the past.
What you both did to each other was wrong but I believe nobody is perfect and we all fall short of perfection. This does not justify what you both did, it is wrong to cheat on someone regardless. Everyone (almost everyone) deserves a second chance to make changes and to build a better future.
Try to let go of what happened in the past and instead look to the future. By accusing him of cheating, you could end up actually making it into a reality by pushing him away. Unless you have concrete evidence that the past is being repeated, you are just dwelling on past news.
Life is too short for this and relationships are hard work without carrying all this baggage around.
Let it go or say goodbye to this relationship.