[whatisthis3]

We were just friends.
Btw she's not the other girl in my other thread,(Girl B) haha that's old stuff.
However, she(girlA) is somewhat connected.
Anyway, throughout those months, I was just friends with this girl A, I always thought she was cute, but she had a boyfriend as well. We got kind of close, and I told her all my feelings for Girl B and the situation I was in. she was like someone I could vent to I guess.

Recently, (girlA) she told me she broke up with her boyfriend, who she's broken up with many times, and she just told me she has a crush on me today.

What do I do?

However, I know this rule: never get involved with someone who just dumped their partner

So I don't think I should.. what should I wait for?

[talaniman]

Why do I think, from your past posts, your trying so hard to have a partner that you are willing to try anything for some temporary relief??

She just wants the same thing, but that makes you a rebound for now until she feels better and you have first hand experience with that.

Just me, I would have fun, but not get attached so deep, I can't get out without hurting myself badly, or even lie about being all in love.

Naw, scratch that, I don't think your ready to deal with your feelings, and not get carried away, so crush or not (crushes fade really fast), I think you're better off single.

You seem to like females with baggage, that are looking for somewhere to unload their burdens, and then leave after they do.

[Devorameira]

I'd say neither one of you are ready to jump into a relationship. The consequences could be awful.

Stay away from rebound relationships.

[Cat1864]

Recently, (girlA) she told me she broke up with her boyfriend, who she's broken up with many times, and she just told me she has a crush on me today.

So I don't think I should.. what should I wait for?

That she has a revolving door relationship with her boyfriend is a huge red flag. You don't need to be pulled into a relationship drama not of your own making.

Ask yourself this question: Am I looking for someone who will be a partner to build a relationship with or someone who fills a need to be needed? It's okay to be a 'knight-in-shining- armor' occasionally in a relationship, but a relationship should not be based on 'saving' someone. It leads to mistaking friendship for love.

[whatisthis3]

Mmm, I think I was used as a tool to make the ex jealous

Its OK it was over a time span of 3 days. I'll just enjoy the flirting and things we might do, and never get caught up in the emotions of it.
Thanks.

[Cat1864]

Have fun. :)

[whatisthis3]

Ok.
What is the best way to just have fun, and not get attached to someone?

[kp2171]

k.

Lots o ways to have fun.

Fun doesn't have to be unattached or attached.

So... you think you were used. Maybe. Mkay.

It happens. All the time. Ish.

So... the key to happiness is to be happy.

Little secret there from your uncle kp.

What to do next?

Well... here is where I presume, perhaps incorrectly.

You like her, maybe too much. At leat maybe enough to put her in control. People don't write in here to say "hey... all is great"... they come here with problems. She is your problem. She has shown some interest, but you are off balance about that because you like her and don't know what to do next.

Welcome to humanity. You are mortal.

What next? Don't know. Unfortunately... you get to make the Next Dumb Move in your life.

Personally... I think you need a good balance of Show a Flash of Interest coupled with Be Vested in Your Happiness, Not Hers...

So... if she isn't willing to chase you some, then it wasn't all that much worth it, was it?

You already are starting thinking you were used... not a particularly good start... but then again, everybody uses everybody else in one way or another... so it doesn't mean its evil or wrong or bad...

It just means you need to be on your guard... you are probably more into her... or more into her being into you than she is...

If she doesn't chase you, back off.

Its fine to be used now and then... as long as its within your scope of wants and needs... but I'm afraid you like her a little too much and will spend way too much time second guessing her motives and intentions.

I hope you prove me wrong. Or she proves me wrong. Whatever...

[talaniman]

Through experience you will know yourself a lot more, and be able to cope with your feelings, and have better control of your actions. You will be more alert for facts, and just not assume things are good because they look good, feel good, or that's what you think you want.

Its all about staying cool, calm, and collected, and staying in control of yourself, and NOT get so carried away by those very intense feelings.

As Kp says, you will make mistakes, and do dumb things, but that's how we learn. That's how we grow, and that's how we do better.

That's why its called "growing pains", because it tends to hurt sometimes, but we learn how to deal with that hurt also.

As for the ladies, They to get carried away, and say and do things they mean today, but change about tomorrow, or even have bad days, and get all worked up over nothing. I think your key is be who you are, hopefully a good guy, and think before you act or speak, and try not to get carried away. Just take care of yourself, and don't beat your head in when you do less than perfect, or make bonehead mistakes. And never treat someone better than you want to be treated, as there is no such thing as a perfect human being. They make mistakes too, but you don't have to pay for them, just your own.

Just relax and have fun as you live and learn and try many things so you will know what makes you happy, and what doesn't.

[Homegirl 50]

Ok.
what is the best way to just have fun, and not get attached to someone?

Stop trying to analyze everything, just enjoy the moment.
But what you need to do is ask yourself if you are looking for a girl friend, or looking to have fun. If you are looking for fun, well there you go!

[talaniman]

Its so easy to get attached when one person is your only focus, your only outlet, all of your attention, and you have nothing else that you enjoy.

So balance your life with other people, and things that you enjoy, and you won't be so attached, to just her.

Didn't you learn from the girl before her?