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Dirtypiratehooker · May 23, 2010, 04:20 PM

Ok, well I am 19 and I have been dating my boyfriend for over 7 months and I love him very much. He is super sweet and funny. The thing is though, is that I ran into one of my guy friends. We began talking a lot and I started to like him and began questioning my relationship with my boyfriend. I knew this guy from a few years back when he was a little more immature. I actually had a crush on him then but he wanted to stay single. But he's gotten much more mature throughout the years and I feel like we have a lot in common since when we do talk we talk a lot and it doesn't ever get awkward or anything. Im just not totally sure if he would ever date me or if I should take the risk. Can someone help me out please?

friend4u178 · May 23, 2010, 05:29 PM

Sounds like if this guy would take you you'd have no hesitation. That makes it clear you'd dump your BF if that were the case.

If your not fully invested in your current BF do the right thing and end it with him so you don't waste anymore of his time if your not fully committed.

And if you do that at least give him the decency to wait a few months before you go out with this other guy , there's nothing worse for someone who's been dumped than to think they've been dumped for someone else.

Just a reminder too , the grass might look greener on the other side but that's not always the case.

endangered.spirit · May 23, 2010, 05:31 PM

Well, there are two ways of looking at this.
1. If you already have a sure thing, why end that for something that isn't. You may very well end up regretting the decision to leave what may be a good relationship!

2. However, you must look inside yourself. Why are you interested in this other guy? It could indicate that you aren't truly satisfied with your current situation or you aren't quite ready to lock down yet.

You are still young at 19 and have the whole rest of your life to be with someone in a permanent relationship. Unless you are truly ready to settle down right now, this is the time you explore yourself and find out what you want out of life. Many marriages fail because people settle in relationships they don't truly belong in.
I am sure your boyfriend is a great guy and I would hate to see a fellow niceguy's heart get broken but you have to take care of you! I hope that helps!

talaniman · May 23, 2010, 06:45 PM

You have a decision to make. Remain loyal, or break up and pursue other options. Maybe you can't control having feelings for others, but you can control how you deal with it.

Hope your smart enough to let the crush pass, and maybe back off the new guy until you can make a good decision.