[donaldtl]

The mother left Florida and moved back to her home town Lancaster CA; to be close to here parents; to have the child. I received a phone call on 27 Feb 93 that is was a baby girl; With on knowledge 6 day later the mother gave the child up for adoption; I never heard from the mother again; it took me 15 yrs to find the mother and to learn the child was put up for adoption. I have been looking for the last two years to find the child. I just want to know if she OK and during well in school. I think she should know she has 3 sisters and 2 brothers that would love to meet her. The Mother keeps telling me I have to wait on the child to turn 18 and it up to her to want to find/see me. I was never was giving the opportunity to raise my on child. I would just like to find her to let her know she do have other family in her live along with the parents that raise her. I have found out she was born at Martha Luther king hospital LA, birth name was Khadijah. Mother's name Tonya. By >E-mail Removed<What do I in need to do to find my adopted child.

[JudyKayTee]

This isn't a family law question. This is an adoption question.

Please don't post an email address - it's against AMHD rules and also dangerous.

You have no recourse until the child is of legal age.

I am surprised that it took you 15 years to find the mother. What steps did you take? I trust you are not trying to overturn the adoption.

[Synnen]

You wait until the child is 18.

Period.

Unless you are trying to overturn the adoption--in which case, you'd better have a REALLY good lawyer, because she's already nearly 18 and HAS a family.

Leave it alone until she's 18. Then you can legally search for her.

[donaldtl]

This isn't a family law question. This is an adoption question.

Please don't post an email address - it's against AMHD rules and also dangerous.

You have to recourse until the child is of legal age.

I am surprised that it took you 15 years to find the mother. What steps did you take? I trust you are not trying to overturn the adoption.

Thank you for the correction; The first steps I took was the phone book. I start with the last know city. I could not find her because the mother kept a restricted phone line. Then I started by looking on the internet and going down the list with emails and phone calls. At one point I got so frustrated I gave up. Until I heard about people search and paid the fee and went down the list and made a lot of calls until I found the mother. After finding her and talking to here on phone the first time and exchange information it took her about 6mo to answer or response to my next phone call And another 6mo for her to agree to see me so I could talk to her personally the only said point is I only got very little useful information from her.

I do understand things happing in life and you can't change what has happen. NO am not trying to overturn the adotion. I have a brother who has a aboted child. So I wouldn't want him or my nephew to go though any thing like that; I just would like to know if the child is doing well and happy. Also would like the child to know that am out here wondering where she at and what is going on in her life. Along with her other brothers and sisters. Thank you TeeLatDon

[JudyKayTee]

I hope when she's 18, if she's curious, that you reach out to each other.

It does sound like you are being responsible, don't want to upset her life - not everyone has that attitude.

Hopefully she will attempt to contact you when she's 18.