[ChihuahuaMomma]

Hi there.

I had two questions:

What is a male maid of honor called?

Any ideas on how to have my wedding party walk down the isle? I have 3 males and one female. I have two best men and two maid of honors (but one is male).

Thanks.

[cdad]

Best I can find on the male maid of honor is "honor attendant".

Here is part of it.
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Found this example on a wedding etiquette website:

Q:My Male of Honor


I want my best friend, who is a man, to be my "maid of honor." What should he be called, and how should his role be adjusted? I can't picture him walking down the aisle right next to my husband's best man.

A:These days the term "honor attendant" is popular. As for his duties, obviously he won't be helping you change into and out of your gown.

But there are plenty of other ways he can help. His first priority is to be an unstinting source of support on the big day. Also, he needs to make sure the other attendants are where they should be and up to speed on their responsibilities.

During the ceremony, he stands next to you. Some tasks can be modified: A friend of mine, for example, arranged for her male friend to hand her bouquet to her grandmother, sitting in a front pew, after she'd made her way to the front of the church (he didn't want to stand there holding a bouquet). As for how you all depart, the bridal couple's two "best" men can walk solo down the aisle, one after the other.


Im not sure about the splitting up of couples normally walking down the isle. That's a tough one.

Ref:

What do you call a male "maid of honor" in a wedding? - Yahoo! Answers

[cdad]

Something that might work for having the 2 males present would be to split them and give them jobs to do. Solo down the isle and one have role of ring bearer and the other solo down isle to light 2 candles. Then at the end of your ceramony you could each take a candle and together light one new one from the two that were lit and extinguish the 2. That way it ties together and represents a new single flame to guide your lives by. Hope that makes sense.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Yeah, we don't want a unity candle. And we already have a ring bearer. Actually two, our twin nephews. The solo walking could work. Maybe have them walk down separately and then have his other best man escort my other maid of honor. Thank you for telling me what it was called to have a male maid of honor.

[dontknownuthin]

This is what I would do:

Call all of the people in your bridal party "honor attendants" or "witnesses" and skip the gender designation entirely.

Have the two groomsmen serve as ushers when people are entering your sanctuary. After they've seated the last of the people, which generally are the grandparents, and then the parents of the groom and finally the mother of the bride, they simply walk without ceremony up to the front of the church and stand in their spot for the ceremony. Then the groom enters from the side and takes his place. Then your two attendants walk up the aisle side by side. They needn't be arm in arm or anything - keep it light and casual - and they take their places. Then the music changes and you and your father enter. If you have flower girls or ring bearers, they would enter after the groom and before your two attendants.

When you list them in your program I would simply list them all under one category and not designate who's there for you and who's there for the groom - they are all there for both of you. And the more you make of explaining your male attendant, the less natural it will feel for everyone. If he stands beside you, it will be obvious that he is your attendant and no more needs to be said.

Congratulations.

[positiveparent]

I have been to a wedding where there were males in a role similar to that of bridesmaid, and they were classed as "supporters of the bride" at another wedding with a similar theme they were classed as "brides men" however this is England so it may be different in say USA.

Also with younger males they're known as "page boys" so I would assume the older they are then they could be termed as "page men".

I think you could class any male attendants as wedding supporters
Or the brides personal aides or support.

Hope you have a great Wedding.

I know the male equivalent are known as grooms men.

With one of the weddings, the older males involved walked down the aisle ahead of the bride, and stood to the left side of the altar.

At the other wedding the males involved each escorted the older bridesmaids down the aisle both before and after the ceremony, and sat with the bridesmaid in a designated area to the left of the altar.

The second arrangement looked good, it was arranged as:

Page boy ring bearer
Male/female
Flower girl
Female/male
Flower boy

These all walked behind the bride,
After ceremony the walked behind the best man who walked on his own.

It looked very effective and also really good too.