[gomgom]

My girlfriend married her roommate for green card and can not divorce until march of next year otherwise she would not get her card, the thing is he fell in love with her and tried to do everything to keep her with him, he think she loves him and had been sneaking around her phone and finally find out she is dating me ( he said she can date anyone except me , he knows it's only for paperwork ) anyway when she told me he found out because she did not delete the text I gave her I was furious , I basically scolded her about the text and how she never make the right decission because she is very naïve and finally I made her cried and screamed then after we left I called the next day and she did not answer so I text and scolded her again , finally she text back " u don't love me anymore i'm so dissapinted " then when we talked again 2 days later at my house I was drunk and drove my car out to get a ciccaratte when I came back she was carying she said it never happened before and I broke her heart really bad , I never care about how other might feel , I do what I want to do then she decided that now she wants to be friend. She said I have temper issue like her father , she loves me and if I don't have this temper I would be perfect however she doesn't believe that I can get rid of it , so she think being friend is the best. Yesterday I sent her apologized note and flower then took her out to lunch , while eatting she said " i can not believe i come out with u after what u did to me , and smile " then before we leave that night she said

" i won't stay angry like this forever , one day i will better again but just know what even if my heart heal it would always leave a wound , just don't expect me to be happy in a day or two , it will take a long time , but i still love you and don't worry about anything , u did it and it's in the past , once I'm ready we will start again , once i am free from him i we can talk about us again " but after we left I called and she did not answer , I also text her but she did not reply , I thought I lost my wallet in her car and did not want her to get in trouble , what should I do? I am confuse

[Cat1864]

I think the naive one in this situation is the husband. He stopped being a roommate when he married her for whatever reason. Immigration fraud is a very big thing to have hanging over one's head.

Let her go. You were treating her like a child or pet by scolding her which says that you don't see her as an equal partner in the relationship. She has other baggage she needs to work not the least of which is her immigration status. You have baggage you need to work on, too. Take time to learn how to communicate with a partner.

Send her one note asking about your wallet (and nothing else) if you haven't found it yet. Then start doing what you need to to take care of any credit cards, licenses, bank cards, etc. Keep looking for it other places where you may have lost or misplaced it. Chances are you may find it where you wouldn't think to look.

[Jake2008]

What a mess.

Why would you get involved with someone who marries a man in order to get a green card in the first place.

She is 'married', and her 'husband' is also contributing to this crime. I wonder what's in it for him.

Considering the number of people who apply legally to enter the US and Canada, and take the time to do things right, are moved that much further away from their dreams because of opportunits like your 'girlfriend'.

The whole thing stinks to me. I wouldn't have anything to do with her.

[Lucky098]

I'm confused.

Were you two together BEFORE she married the other dude?

Or

Did you two hook up AFTER the marriage?

Either way, this relationship is a disaster. Anyone who is willing to marry someone other then the person they supposibly love is nothing but a liar and a cheater.

She may not have loved the other guy, maybe nothing happened, but she still married him and is seeing you on the side.

That's called CHEATING.

Leave her. You're not happy with her. She's unhappy with herself.

Just leave the situation. Find someone who will give you everything, not half to you, and half to someone wanting to illegally stay in the country.

Quite honestly, this shouldn't even be an issue for you. I know if my boyfriend married some girl while dating me... He'd be gone within seconds. Why are you sticking around? What are you expecting to happen? Because nothing is going to happen, no matter how proactive you're going to seem. She made a choice, and she needs to live with it.. ALONE. In fact.. she's even screwing over the guy she married! This is a lose-lose situation. Be smart and leave.