[xMaverickx]

So I took this girl out three nights ago and we had a great time. We had dinner on the beach and walked around for a couple hours, it was great. After I dropped her off back home she said she had a great time and I mentioned we should do it again. She agreed, we kissed on the cheek and I drove home with a huge smile lol. I called her last night to set up another date for this weekend but she is working late all weekend so I suggested Monday and we are going to shot for that day. Now, I have a problem with over analyzing things and over thinking every situation when it comes to women. I'm not really sure how often to text or call her, because I want to let her know I'm interested but I don't want her to think I'm desperate or whatever. And besides the phone call I made to her about our next date I haven't really heard anything from her, so now I'm thinking she isn't interested. I do understand that when you start seeing someone new that too much contact is a turn off and too little contact means one person or the other isn't interested, but I don't know how much is enough! So now what?

[CarrotTalker]

Wait until your next date, you don't need always need to talk between dates.

[Devorameira]

The relationship is too new to be texting or calling daily. Texting and calling constantly after just one date can be a form of harassment.

Wait until your next date and see how it goes, then you can decide if you really want to keep in contact.

Take things slow - don't be a pest or you'll come across as desperate.

[xMaverickx]

Well it doesn't matter anyway, cause I called her earlier today to confirm our date for tomorrow and never heard back from her, I don't understand women and never will

[Jake2008]

That's a shame she didn't have the decency to call to say she wouldn't be able to make it. Rude really.

If she does contact you again, I hope you're not going to be too available.

[I wish]

Sometimes people choose the indirect route to reject you, i.e. by ignoring you.

Think about it this way, what does that say about her personality? Is that really the type of person you want to be with?

[roxypox]

I'm sorry to hear that! Like Jake said.. it is very rude to not tell you that she couldn't make it and I to hope that you won't be too available if she does get in touch.

And like I wish said.. it can be an indirect way of rejecting you... which is a shame, and it is rude and in some ways it dos say something about her.

But hang in there and keep your chin up! All women aren't the same! We really aren't! For ex, I would have made the same choices as her.. I'm honest when I'm not interessted and I'm honest when I am.

So forget about her and relax, enjoy life and date someone else.

Best of luck!

[xMaverickx]

You everyone has a valid point, she actually ended up texting me later that day to say she got held up helping her dad with something all day and that she had to cancel on Monday because was celebrating Mother's day that day. I appreciated the notice and I mentioned to her on Sunday night we could reschedule, but she didn't get back to me the next day saying yes and that was pretty much it. I didn't try to make plans with her. If she wants to see me, she can bring it up.

[kctiger]

Been there done that man. I know it is hard to understand, but that's why we don't try to understand. Best thing to do is just move on and if she is interested she can call you. Why should you have to do all the work? Chin up my man, we've all been there.

**I've actually been on both sides the spectrum here.