[Shorn9]

So, I have this major problem. I am shy but never had a problem getting girls to like me. I find that evevn without any effort at all someone thinks I like them or something like that. I am talkative and may be mistaken for a flirt. Currently I can name about 7 girls very beautiful and very well educated with masters who think I like them. I was going out with one of them just to see if maybe I would feel something but 4 months later. I still don't have that feeling of I really like you and like spending my time with you.I'm not a player and really want to get s girlfriend. I'm a nursing student and sorrounded by lots of beautiful women. I am NOT gay.. and find most of them pretty attractive but remmember the shy part of me... That takes away thought of asking any of them out.

I guess my question is.. why can't I get a girlfriend that I actually like? I need someone who can understand my issues and also my busy schedules.

[Clough]

Hi, Shorn9!

What kind of woman would it take for you to really like and be interested in her, please?

Also, do you like yourself a lot?

Thanks!

[Shorn9]

Hi, Shorn9!

What kind of woman would it take for you to really like and be interested in her, please?

Also, do you like yourself a lot?

Thanks!

Someone with a good sense of humor, Independent, someone with a great smile. Someone supportive but says what's on her mind. Trustworthy, responsible. And beautiful. I guess that's all I ask for.

Do I like myself a lot, I'm not full of myself if that's what you mean. Or nobody has ever stated that..

[I wish]

You don't need to date every one of them, but I think that the best way to approach this is to gain my experience by interacting with more people at a deeper level.

Can't you meet in a more personal setting, outside of work? See how one-on-one conversations turn out, see if a spark develops and go from there.

[Clough]

Originally Posted by Clough
Hi, Shorn9!

What kind of woman would it take for you to really like and be interested in her, please?

Also, do you like yourself a lot?

Thanks!

Someone with a good sense of humor, Independent, someone with a great smile. Someone supportive but says what's on her mind. Trustworthy, responsible. And beautiful. I guess that's all I ask for.

Do I like myself a lot, I'm not full of myself if that's what you mean. Or nobody has ever stated that..

How many women have you dated, please?

Also, I wasn't meaning that you might be full of yourself. It's definitely okay for people to like and love themselves.

Thanks!

[Larken85]

I think maybe the girls that are interested in you are just not your caliber. It is highly possible that you are used to these types of women and that looking in other venues may be recommended.

On the other hand it could be that you are not looking for what you think you should be looking for. Meaning that you may desire so much to find that certain someone that is so awesome in every logical way that you over look the truly special people. I don't think there is a such thing as an ulgy person, I think that the truth of the matter is that there are several different standards of beauty.

You know the saying that one mans trash is another mans treasure? Well it works for partners too. One man may not at all be attracted to a certain type of girl but that type of girl may be just down your alley.

Mostly you need to find a girl that is interested in the things that you are. So that you can find common ground and have fun together. Bonding is the first step in getting to know your partner (or potentail partner) and can be the best stepping stone to bonding your feelings with that person. Basically what I am saying is that you will find what you are looking for if you open your eyes to the world you feel most comfortable in and you open your heart to someone.

It sounds to me like you are emotionally blocked off in the love department, is there a reason for this? Something in your past that hurt you?