[monkeygurl199427]

I like this guy named tyler and we have gone out twice but both times he has broke up with me for family issues. I've tried asking him about them and he won't tell me. So I don't know if these problems are real or fake. He says he likes me to and we show that to each other all the time by flirting. Well for the past couple of days he has had those days where he just wants to hold me close and kiss me and make out and then the next he barely talks to me. I'm just so confused as to why one day he acts like my boyfriend and wants to kiss me and the next it's like I'm not even there! Got any suggestions?

[Devorameira]

He isn't treating you right with his "on-again; off-again" attitude. He should be treating you like a princess, not like a little puppy dog who he throws scraps to when he feels like it.

I would suggest that you break it off with him and find someone who cares consistently. There are plenty of sweet guys out there that'd love to have you as their girlfriend. :)

[talaniman]

Seems rather obvious he wants your body, and could care less about your feelings, or you mind.

You would do well leaving him alone, as he will surely dump you again. There is more to having a boyfriend than just making out, hugging, kissing, or humping.

[I wish]

Friends with benefits is what he wants.

If he really cared about you, he wouldn't be messing with your mind like that.

[JK191]

There is a chance his family is going through a rough patch.

When I was younger and experienced it, I pretty much distanced myself from everyone and once in a while tried to connect to someone.

Maybe he's trying to do the same.

Else, he's just a jerk like the above posters mentioned.

I'd suggest talking to him, even if you had to pull an ultimatum on him to know what's going on.

Should there be an issue, you can try to be understading.
If there isn't one, well I don't think I need to tell you that you deserve better.

Take care!

[monkeygurl199427]

Thanks guys! That helped, I think he has told me he has told me he has family issues but I'm nt sure! But umm.. I've tried to help him but he won't tell me wats going on and I understand because I don't like to tell people my family business either!

[monkeygurl199427]

OK he and I were a pretty good couple last year. I mean we were totally in love with each other! You we broke up a couple times but those were for stupid reasons. Well we got to be 5 months into the relationship and he started making up rumors telling everyone he kissed some other girl, that he didn't like me no more so I broke up with him. Well a couple days later he asked for me back and he did the same things. SO I asked him why he made that stuff up and he said to make the relationship fun! I was like well I don't like it when you do that and he quit. Well it comes down to the summer of 09 I get a call form some girl named alex and she was like me and Jordan (my ex) had sex and there is nothing you can do about it. I broke down and started crying. I didn't know what to do. I knew it had to be tru simce she lived in n.c and thts where he just visited but I didn't want to believe it. Well I cried almost all day and then he calls and I was still crying and he says "what's wrong baby?" I was like "u kno wats wrong u kno wat u did!!!" He said "wat r u tlkn bout?" I was like " I KNO U CHEATED!!!" he said "i was drunk and she wanted me to walk her home so i did! and she took me to her room and it jus happened and im sorry." But I ended it right there. I broke up with him. But he really broke my heart because I was totally in love with him and we both though we were guna be together forever! And till this day we are friends and he has tried getting back together with me but I say no and he doesn't understand y. I mean you I want to be with him but I don't want to get hurt again. And I need help moving on because the guy I like now won't go out with me because he knows I still really like my ex and he don't want to get hurt.. and I understand that but how do I get over my ex and prove to the guy I like now that I really like him and not my ex..

[KevintheFool]

You sound kind of young - don't get me wrong, Im not trying to belittle or patronise - there are so many reasons to be glad that you are rid of this former boyfriend...

What an immature idiot? Hardly showed any respect for the relationship making up rumours about HIMSELF playing around ? What an absolute douche.

You genuinely still feel for this guy?

Maybe as something that may help you, how would you react to say one of your close female friends if they told you they still liked this original boyfriend? Your reaction would be to laugh in disbelief...

Leave that joker behind and hey, he could have been your "first" or first love but seriously, it wasn't love.

Be happy that you are out of it and when you are ready for someone new, you will be ready :) Just take a breath and chill :P

[Aurora_Bell]

There is a difference between having family issues and not talking to someone about it, and treating you like a booty call for when he is id down in the dumps.

Ever see that movie "He's just not that into you"?

[monkeygurl199427]

I told this guy that I felt he was using me because one day he acts like my boyfriend (were aren't going out) like wanting to kiss me and hold me close and the nxt he flirts with girls right in front of me and doesn't even acknowledge that I'm there. And I told him that I know he broke up with me to figure out his life but he doesn't have to confuse me in the process! And all he says was k! And I told him all this to try and make myself feel better but it hasn't made me feel any better. I mean it still is bothering me with the facet that I don't think he understands! HELP

[monkeygurl199427]

:o that makes me feel better kind of but I don't know! I've known him for a while and I feel as if I'm falling for him but I'm nt sure!

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...nd-466337.html

How old are you? As someone else has pointed out, you seem rather young and your budding hormones are really confusing you. I think you are really carried away by them, or overwhelmed, or just confused how best to cope with them. I can understand that, and an older trusted female can really help give you a handle on these emerging feelings you are having.

Your mom would be your best bet at this time as you learn about your "new" changing self, and coping with it.

All us humans go through this, but your added concern about your sexuality, and how to best express it safely must make it even harder, since your range of attractions is greater, and your fears and insecurities are making this very hard to deal with.

I think you're a very normal teen, who just needs some honest answers to your questions. That's all.

That's why most of your posts were merged, but unfortunately I couldn't merge them all, but if I could we could all see the very familiar pattern of you growing and just need knowledge to go with the feelings.

Mom, or a school counselor, female of course can really help you.

[monkeygurl199427]

There is a difference between having family issues and not talking to someone about it, and treating you like a booty call for when he is id down inthe dumps.

Ever see that movie "He's just not that into you"?

Wats a balancer?

[talaniman]

A balancer is when you give someone a disagreement for their opinion. Its against the rules to give disagreements unless the advice is dangerous, or factually incorrect.

The way it done here is to express your response as a post and tell why you disagree.

[monkeygurl199427]

A balancer is when you give someone a disagreement for their opinion. Its against the rules to give disagreements unless the advice is dangerous, or factually incorrect.

The way it done here is to express your response as a post and tell why you disagree.

Ohhh OK I get it now.. thanks!