[vayallday]

Well this is kind of a long story, but I've been with my boyfriend for about two years now and I'm am very depressed. In 2008 I became pregnant with our son, during the whole nine months he treated me very bad causing me to have stress, which made my eclampsia(high blood pressure) become very severe. I had the baby and two days later he died due to a seizure for having fluid on his brain from my highblood pressure. Well we' back together and I'm pregnant again.. this time he pretends to care just so id stay. I don't want to loose my baby again.. I do love him but even I know love is not enough. Should I leave him?. have an abortion?. stay and be a family?

[justcurious55]

Can I ask, how do you know he's pretending to care? I mean, it seems like he has to care if he wants you to stay.

Have you two tried couples counseling? Its important to have a supportive partner, but even when your partner isn't being supportive, I don't know that its entirely fair to blame them for as much as you're blaming him for. Sometimes eclampsia happens, you can't necessarily blame anyone for it. And it sounds like you're blaming him for the death of your first child. That's going to create a lot of tension. And if you want to stay with him, you two have got to work things out. And I suggest counseling because that's a heck of a lot to work out all on your own.

[talaniman]

Let him be there to support you through this, and make sure you take care of yourself and this child. That comes first.

I also think you have to have some counseling through this too, and make sure you have family involved.

He probably had no clue what your first pregnancy was about, and may have little, or no experience with a pregnant female. He could stand some guidance, and support also.

[Larken85]

I have to agree with the other posters here. You all need help through this (professional help.) And on top of this if you are blaming him for the death of you first child then you will automatically fear the same thing happening here. I suggest working through your issues and just trying to keep the love flowing. You got a baby to think about here and a life to give that baby.
Good luck to you

[Romefalls19]

See a counselor and sort this out, stress isn't good for you or the baby. Let him support you through this as well. Please seek help to handle this

[Devorameira]

I'm certain the loss of your firstborn is weighing heavy on your mind, but for the sake of the baby-to-come, you've got to concentrate on being and staying healthy.

If you love him and think he really loves you, then give it a chance. This is his child too.

Counseling is an excellent idea!