[lemon101]

Yesterday I turned 18 years old.. nothing good so far..

I keep wishining & dreaming everyday about beauty!
I wish if I was beautifull! I can't live like this anymore!
I can't even look at the merror.. I don't go to parties & I didn't attend my prom! Can you believe it?!
I know that it doesn't matter how we look.. but that doesn't make me feel good!

Do you know how can I over come this problem?
Do you know a book wich can help me to solve this thing?
Please help... :(

[Aurora_Bell]

Wow, that must be awful to feel like that. I bet you aren't ugly at all. You're right though, it's who you are not what you are.

You need to get some self confidence! So what exactly is it about your appearance that you are unhappy with?
I have found that almost every girl has something in their appearance that they don't like. I was never very confident growing up either. But I learned to hold my head up high, and believing in myself was my first step. After all if you don't, then who will?

I found some links to books on building self confidence. I hope they help!


35 Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence | Self-confidence e-book| LB coaching

Building Self Esteem

[cdad]

Try reading Cinderella and see just how it is when you focus too much on outer beauty and not on inner beauty ( see the step mother section of the book ). In reality good looks start from the inside. Haven't you noticed that when someone is having a great day they have a glow? It's the same thing. You start inside and it grows outward. Sheer beauty might win you a contest or two but its not going to get you through life. It takes much more then that.

[Fr_Chuck]

Make over to learn to use make up properly

A new hair style that goes with your body shape

Dress for your body style.

But at the end of the day, normally it is how we think about ourself, as to how we see ourself

[Som3Guy]

I believe that there are no ugly and no beautifull. Just different. What's your definition of beauty? I'm sure you might be beautifull your own way. :).

Just starting here, sorry if this is a lame advice, but it's just my point of view.

[Larken85]

I loved reading all the sun shine and lolly pop answers. *sarcasm btw*

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder yes, and its how you look at yourself too, but to be considered beautiul you have to conform to someone else's definition of being beautiful. (sorry that's a fact of life) You need to have a nice beautiful person take you under their wing and teach you what you need to know. How to dress, act, move, flirt. You need to know how to do your hair and makeup. (sometimes people look much better without makeup. You've heard the saying less is more right? This is only true sometimes.) If it's a weight issue, all I can suggest is plenty of exercise.

I can understand how you feel, for the longest time I was the ulgy duckling. But I had a makeover when my current girlfriend (fiance) and I got invloved. She had me start dressing in tighter fitting clothes (not for everyone), She had me pierce my ears, cut my hair, and gave me confidence.

Beauty takes work to uphold but I think that almost anyone has the ability to be beautiful. Though I hate the way the world works, that is the plain and simple truth. In order to be something that you are not currently, it is easiest to emulate someone else's style until you find your own. (do not copy the person to an exact science, that's just called being a poser.)