[Erin15]

So when I first met my fiancée he asked when my birthday was. I estimated about 8 months. No big deal. So 8 months came around and we had already been dating for that long and my b day never came up. He asks what date ny b day is on and I say the 20th which is true. So he thought my b day is march 20 instead of June 20. We've been together for 2 years and I don't know how to tell him it's not in march. I'm scared a family member might slip before I decide to tell him or not. What should I do? Tell him or just leave it alone?

[Alty]

What? This is insane. Why didn't you tell him right away? You let it go for 2 years?

Do you two talk? Didn't he find it odd that no one else wished you a happy birthday on March 20? What about your birthday, doesn't anyone do anything special on that day? How have you kept this a secret?

Just tell him. Explain that you were too afraid to tell him the truth, for whatever reason.

This really is ridiculous.

[hheath541]

You need to tell him. What if you end up married? What if he sees your license? What if he wants to plan a party for you? Or someone else plans a party? Are you just not going to invite him?

Just explain what happened. Tell him that since it only happens once a year, you just never remembered to correct him until it was too late, and by that point you were embarrassed and not sure how to do so.

If you can't talk about something as silly as this, how will you ever be able to talk about something important?

[kp2171]

Uhm...

So...

You don't think that, as your husband, this isn't going to come up... I don't know... just about every flipping time a legal document comes about... or insurance forms... or a dozen other things that can come about just from being together?

You CANNOT hide this and have it sustained, just from the mental gymnastics of filling out files and forms.

Seriously.

So... best you can do is play the "look... this is really, really stupid, but remember when..." line and hope he sees this as a silly little quirk that you can both laugh at.

By the way... this kind of stuff... the it might upset him so I'm not going to correct it crap... just doesn't work in a marriage. Just saying.

Bite the bullet. If this is the worst you've done, hopefully he'll just be confused and not spend time wondering about what else you've been too scared to fess.

But don't think for one moment that you can go for long within a marriage and not know your partners correct birthdate.

[amicon]

Just bite the bullet and t e l l him.

[talaniman]

Tell him ASAP! Tell us what the big deal of lying about your birthday is.

I just don't get why you would do something so silly in the first place.

[king702]

Is your relationship even serious? What else are you hiding from him? Please share... it helps... but please tell the man the truth