[MissRissa]

Hello there,
I've been broken up with my ex boyfriend now for about a year and a half and I'm currently dating someone new. The thing is that I haven't spoken to my ex or had anything to do with him since we broke up. One day, however I was thinking about him and got an urge to look at his myspace because for some reason I started wondering what he was doing with his life now. I was looking through his pictures and I saw some with him and his new girlfriend. She is very pretty. I started to feel a little insecure about myself and felt a little bit hurt. Now ever since then I can't look in a mirror without comparing myself to her. Don't get me wrong I am over my ex boyfriend and I don't have any plans on talking to him or anything but secretly I compare myself to his new girlfriend. Maybe it's because I'm insecure because he broke up with me for her and ever since then I feel like she's so much better than me. I don't know, but can somebody please help me? I feel like something is wrong with me and I feel like it's so sick because I have a boyfriend right now.

[Larken85]

People always wish that the girl the comes after them (or guy) is a total wash out loser, ulgy as heck, and just down right lower than you. However when we find out the reality of the situation (being that this is not at all the case) we start to question our own qualities. Even though you may not be interested in being with him ever again, it may strike you as offensive if the person he left you for (in your opinion) looks much better than you.
I however believe that looks aren't everything and that everyone has huge flaws. A little underhanded I know but for your own good I suggest finding something negative about her that you do not have and try concentrating on the thought "at least I'm not____." or something of the sort.

Hope the advice helped a little bit. I don't think there is anything at all wrong with you, I just think you are a little jealous for some reason.

[amicon]

Don't check out his Myspace and stop comparing yourself to the ex's current gf-you are you and you have a new boyfriend,so don't let past failures ruin your happiness.

[talaniman]

Don't let a bit of curiosity, make your own insecurity, turn to jealousy. That's a recipe that leads to low self esteem. Stop looking at his social page, and deal with the reality your in.

[sexynurse75]

I have the same feeling. I have no clue what my ex new girlfriend how she look or where she work or does she have any kids. Its weird that I'm comparing myself to her. I left my ex because I was not happy with him anymore. My ex was not a bad guy so I just think that I'm getting replace so fast. I know he needs to continue living his life. I guess I'm just a bit jealous. I brake down mostly on the weekend because we use to do a lot of stuff togerther and now I not motivated to do anything. I'm still single so I guess that the reason I'm having a hard time moving on and jealous of my ex that he moved on so fast. I guess I need to suck it up.
I'm having a hard time expressing myself. But writing really help me to move on. One day at the time. Some days are good some days hard to move on.