[shell985]

My husband calls me about 200 times a week and he threatens to take our 4 your old away from me. I moved away 3 yrs ago after he pulled a gun one night. He recently got a tresspassing warning on him and he even threatens my military career. I don't know what to do. I'm at my wits end.

[I wish]

Get a divorce.

There's no reason for you to suffer this kind of abuse. There's no reason for you to live in such fear.

Did you ever call the police when he pulled out the gun?

[JoeCanada76]

Ever thought of changing your phone number and making it unlisted and maybe possibly relocating... Also anytime there is this type of harassment everything should be documented by you and reported to the police.

[artlady]

artlady agrees: She will get some action if she reports this to her C.M Meant to say commanding officer :)

[Fr_Chuck]

Have you filed for divorce,

Have you filed and gotten a custody agreement

Do you have a child support order he has to pay

[Devorameira]

He really could be a dangerous man. You need to be concerned for you and your child's safey. You need to take his threats very seriously!

You have to report and document everything that goes on.

Defintiely talk to your commanding officier so they are aware of the problem. Doing so could prevent him from harming your military career.

File for divorce ASAP and get your child officially placed in your custody.

File a restraining order against him and then call the police and have him arrested every time he calls or comes near you.

Good luck!

[Gemini54]

This isn't harassment, it's stalking and it's threatening.

So start treating it seriously. Get a second phone and leave the one that he rings on voice mail. Keep the messages he laves. Let everyone know, including your employers, what he is doing so that they are in no doubt that he is stalkign and threatening you.

Go to the police and report what he's doing and take out a restraining order which means that he can't harass you or come near you.

Don't let him see your daughter without supervision.

Speak to a good lawyer - your husband sounds obsessive and potentially dangerous.

[KBC]

All good suggestions from the other posters.

Look into this site, Setting Personal Boundaries - protecting self

IF you feel the need to talk to him,, make up your mind on how far you are willing to let things go, set a boundary, for your protection,and your daughters.

It seems he has visitation with her?If so,you are going to have to deal with him at one point or another.Having a line drawn in the sand will make a clear picture for him to see, not allowing him to cross that line without repercussions, that's up to you(and a protection order,harassment judgment,etc)

Read that site, see where it says when we set a boundary,we make a statement, but have NO EXPECTATIONS of the outcome.This isn't manipulation,it's a healthy way to express our bounds only.

I hope you write back about this, you have a few people here a little concerned and we would like to hear your success.