[GoogleMe]

We've been together for a year, after 4 months he moved in with me as he lives 500 miles away. It was fine for a few weeks then he said he missed home, he went back and that killed me. Next day he calls and says he misses me too much and wants to come back, so I let him. Few weeks later he leaves again. He ignored me and tried to make himself hate me for 5 weeks then he contacted me saying he missed me and he can't live without me, can't stop thinking about me e.c.t. We've been together for a few weeks now and everything's OK except he's more uncaring. He said that WoW is more interesting than us atm and he only talks to me when it suits him. He called me last night, like normal telling me he missed me and loves me and all that. He did that every night, just like a normal couple. Today he calls me telling me he can't see us happening, I'm not moving there and he won't move here so it won't happen. He says he fallen out of love with me and still "wants to be friends" what is happening? He says he wants to spend his life with me and he's totally obsessed with me and he's broke my heart for the 4th time today. He said he's not coming back this time but he won't block me on msn or change his number like he did before because he still cares about me. When he gets extremely down and his pills are wearing off he calls me crying, telling me he misses me and can't wait to hold me, he was coming to see me in the next few days. Then he pushes me away to save himself from being hurt. I know it's easy to say move on and I want to try but I love him so much.What would you do if the love of your life has this illness (Bi-polar and Manic Depression)? He's getting councilling and said he's becoming more independent and that's why he doesn't need me now.


I love him so much and at times he says the same. I just don't know if, for the past year, I've just been someone to help I'm through **** until he becomes a more independent person, now he's more independent he says he doesn't need me and doesn't love me.

For the first 3 months it was perfect and when he's in a good mood it's perfect. It's when he has a mood swing then he tells me he doesn't love me. But I knew the him I fell for and sometimes he's a completely different person.

Is it the meds that make him heartless? He's used that as a reason before. I just want to know if he really does love me or if he just uses me because I'm there, I've heard both from him. He has 1 friend and his nan is his only family member. He's not close to anyone but he let me in. After we had made love and stuff he used to tell me he'd never leave me. I'm back to square one now, crying and missing him.

Help?

[Gemini54]

Help? Yea, you certainly need it... what a roller coaster you must be on.

People who get drunk and act ugly often blame the alcohol - but in the end, it's something in them that's coming to the surface. Sure, being Bi-Polar and being on meds can make your BF unstable - but does it make him cruel and insensitive as well? (or is it just part of who he is?)

I suspect that there are many more problems here than you can deal with. It's not your role to be his counsellor - and the on-off nature of his affections is destabilizing for you as well as for him.

He now says he's getting counselling and says he doesn't need you any more. I don't think that he knows what love is - he certainly isn't behaving like he loves you (although at times he may have needed you).

You may love him, but it's not working for you is it? Just because you love him doesn't mean that you are fated to be together or fated to have a great relationship.

Perhaps ask yourself why do you love someone that is unavailable and that treats you with such disrespect and lack of consideration.

Is it worth risking your emotional well-being and self esteem to invest so much in this relationship?

[Kitkat22]

Apparently his feelings have changed and you may not fit there anymore. It is nothing you can help him with. Try to have an honest talk with him and tell him how you feel.
Good Luck.

[Oddboots]

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[Oddboots]

Not worth the risk.