[sindhu_thulani]

We were in love with each other for 6 yrs.. we had lot of quarrels and fed up to separate also.. but we cannot.. next day we both will be normal.. and things will go on as usual.. I completely loved him,believed him,lived for him.. no happiness without him

But when I conveyed my love to my parents.. they did not accept my words.. not ready to feel for my love..
I put leave for my job out of frustration and stayed at home for 2 weeks with no contact.. it was heart bursting moment.. then my parents got his contact no and talked rudely with him.. he tried to convince and gave confidence that he will be taking care of me..

But it was a big fight.. both our parents talked to the maximum nonsense.. only we suffered..
I was irritated of his parents words on me.. but never hate him.. my parents after this made a silent engagement with relatives son.. with me & the guy..


I talked to my boyfriend after the separation.. but we both do not know about the engagement.. so we were convincing each other that things will be all right after somedays..

I was in my office(out of station) at the time and not knowing this returned home.. to my shock they didn't allow me to go to office again.. no contact nothing... I said I will die if my boyfriend is not with me.. they said you happily marry the guy after my death... my father was attacked by stroke for 6 months... I cried a lot.. from my chilhood I didn't hurt my dad like this.. my boy friend said come with me I am not bothered about your father(I was shocked,how can I leave my dad & go with him in this situation)..

His parents started calling & spoke to me nastily about me & my character.. since his son is mad on me.. finally I decided to give up.. out of angry..

My dad recoverd nobody was with me at the time except my mom.. he still said the same.. it is better to be like this rather you go with the guy.. I cannot accept that,he said.. if you want to leave us in this situation.. go ahead..

I accepted for marriage after this.. now my husband is a good character.. 2 yrs went.. but still my old memories are always there.. I could not forget.. everyday I think of him.more than my family.. atleast 20 times I seee his photo.. see his old mails.. recently came to know he is in love with his colleague.. he is very happy.. I am happy for that.. but I could not forget him what shall I do? Help.. it is pinching my heart every min.. I am still in deep love..

[talaniman]

Sadly you probably always will be, but he has found happiness, and you must too. I hate arranged marriages. But traditions are built on them.

[Gemini54]

The only way for you to get over this is to make the effort to do so. That means - delete all his emails, burn his photos and stop asking your friends what he is doing.

Unless you consciously make the effort NOT to think about him, he will be in your mind constantly.

You've grieved for 2 years now so you owe it to yourself and your husband to make an effort and concentrate on your marriage.

Stop dwelling on something that you can't change - it's only making you much unhappier. If you focus on the present instead of the past your mood will improve and you life will be better.