[i am sam99]

I have been with my girlfriend 8 months now, we both love each other, more than any partner either of us have had before, but a couple of days ago she decide she should break up,

Both my girlfriend "em" and I are just going through year 12 QCE (qeensland certificate of education), which in Australia is the stressfull year of high school before you start university

The stress of this year is starting to get to both of us, and school was impacting on our relationship, and likewise our relationship was impacting on school.
I know we both love each other, we still have the little spark, but the last two weeks have been really stressfull, and we have both been in really bad moods.
She has made the decidion that this important year of school is out number one priority and as a consicence our relationship can't co-exist without us, a, ultimately getting anoyed and hating each other, or b, jepodizing our future carees.

So we decided to break up, which is the last thing I want.
As soon I got home after she ended it, she kept trying to talk to me, and try to stay close friends, but at this time, I couldn't bear talking to her without breaking down.
After sleeping on our decision I realise that I need her, so I took on her sugestion of close friends, or as we call it "the spark stage" right at the start of the relationshop where your friends that start to flirt with each other.

Then, the day after we broke up, that night we talked and decided this is what we are going to do, become "best friends"... then as a result we kept talking, one thing lead to another and it ended up that I went to her place at 11 at night, we talked and fell asleep in each others arms, were both confused and don't know what to do

I am madly in love with her, and likewise for her, but we dicided to be best friends during this intense year of school.

The question is, what can best friends do... can we kiss, hug, have sex, hold hands in public? Which we have done all these things since our "break up"

How would you define them and my relationship? and are we doing the right thing?. and are we still technically together, or single?

If we get new girlfriends/boyfriends, we cantl kiss, hug or have sleep overs, can we? And if we are single, is it still OK to kiss hug, or have sex? I'm confused and don't know what to do, I love her, and are we using "best friends" as an excuse to still be together?

[talaniman]

You and her need to define your own relationship. All it takes is some talking while your cuddling, or whatever your doing.

so we decided to break up, which is the last thing I want.

In my book, a break up means Adiós', and I do my thing, and ain't mad at nobody, and don't care what they do! Then I disappear, and you can catch me if you can, but that's just me!

Obviously you have never heard of Talaniman Rules

Talaniman Rule-When they ask for a break, give it to them and do your own thing.

Talaniman Rule- When you break up, have the courtesy to revoke their relationship privileges.

Since you didn't want it, why did you go along with it?

[friend4u178]

Your agreeing to the "Best friends" bit because your trying to hang in there , she's using it as a way to ease her guilt , simple as that.

So you need to do what she asked you to do and that's a break , so for your own good don't get caught in the friends zone and leave her alone.

Then if she decides she really does want to be with you she knows where you are.

Sorry buddy it's not easy and a lot easier for us to tell you what you should do , but we see this sort of scenario on here all the time and that's your best plan of attack In my opinion.

[coruzzi2]

I wouldn't worry too much about it..
You're over thinking it.
School should be your first priority, it's better for you guys what your doing here.

Until then, just stay in eachothers lives and things will fall into place the way they are supposed to.

But if it is a question what you could do when you're together, than you must hang out a lot, and may as well me boyfriend and girlfriend.

[megashal123]

my heart goes out to you as me and my ex fella of two yrs are exactley going through the same thing as you,we were in a long distance relatinship,280 miles apart,and took turns to see each other we tried to do every other weekends,we fell in love got engaged although I wanted more,it should have been more after two yrs together we should have been making plans,moving in together got married,etc.we argued because of this,I didn't trust him he didn't trust me because of the distance,so we decided to split up,that's was 4 months ago,but we still can't be without each other and none of us still can't move on,we still ring each other all day,still meet up when we can,nothing seems to have changed in my eyes we still sleep together,he still tells me he wants to move nearer,but can't find work,if we go out alone we ring each other constantly in case the other is up to no good,we are both holding on to each other for what we will never know,my bilogical clock is on its way out and if we are going to be together it has to be know,we are suffering depression like no ones business,he has no commitment after a 10 yr divorce,I've been divorced for same lengh of time,we both need to sort this out before its too late.. good luck to you too x

we also do everything together go shopping visit our parents,go to appointments this is so getting me down.