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    Mar 7, 2010, 04:07 PM
    My mother hates me
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    I'm 14 and my mother seems to hate me. My father is a good supplier but can get angry easily and sometimes physical. He never hits my mother and if he hits me it doesn't hurt. He and I are on really good terms but my mother is a completely different story.
    She's always away at her friends which isn't a bad thing but when I try to talk to her she just tells me to leave. She has raised my sister to be a little spoiled who never gets in trouble. And no this is not just teenager talk she's constantly telling me to off and calls me a bastard and she's only eleven. My mother thinks she's an innocent angel while my father and I are the devil incarnate. I have stayed up for nights crying and I don't know what to do. She has to take care of her mother and go out o help her. She hits me more than my dad and I've honestly thought of suicide. I don't want to report either one because I love them and it would destroy my family but I can't do anything about it please reply tonight I need help.
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    Mar 7, 2010, 04:46 PM

    I'm sorry you're going through all that. That's a tough age even without family drama. Is your dad aware of how your mother treats you? And how your sister is allowed to treat you? Are you able to talk to your dad?
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    Mar 7, 2010, 04:49 PM

    YOu need to talk to your school couselor
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    Mar 7, 2010, 04:52 PM

    I was disciplined by my parents rather harshly. They used spoons, wooden dowels, and a few other things. I know they did it out of love, not anger and that they would never hurt me, in the sense of damage. I've discussed this with people before and they have called it abuse, but I know where it is coming from.

    If they are abusing you, you shouldn't have to deal with it. Getting out is usually the only way to avoid such a thing. Reporting them is usually the only way. Every teenager considers running away and many consider suicide. I can tell you that neither is the way to solve your issues.

    I can't tell you what to do, but do you think reporting them will hurt your family any less than you dying? You have the right to seek happiness, and there are people who will help you and will try to help your parents.

    Find someone to talk to, preferably someone older, who may be able to sympathize and advise you. Don't make any rash decisions.
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    Mar 8, 2010, 08:58 AM

    Wow what a tough situation. If you can not talk to your mom or dad about it, is there another family member you can talk ot, or stay with for a while. Do you think your mom could be stressed out due to the fact she has to take care of HER mother? IS there anything you could do to help her out with that? No one should hit you. Period.

    My mother was VERY strict while I was growing up. It seemed like there was nothing I could do right. And her forms of dicipline weren't usually the most constructive... she was the type if you tried to tell her how you felt, she would either brush it off and tell me to get over it, or feel like she was being ganged up on. When I was able to, I moved out. It took a few years, but we finally connected. I consider her one of my best friends now. She is still a little rough around the edges, and butts in when she shouldn't, and we still butt heads A lot, but she is still my mother and I know she loves me and I love her.

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