[elaira]

I love someone,who also loves me a lot... but since he is a single child of his parents and belongs from different community of mine,when he told about me at her home,their parents got panic.His mother got ill,and her blood pressure got abnormally up and down.She is very ill and doctor has told him ,not to give any tension to his mother.When he told me these things,then we decided that we will end up happily and accept the decision of our destiny.His parents had searched a girl for him and within these 2 years he would get married with someone else,whom he doesn't love.But now when he is not with me,I am getting sick day by day,I am going into depression.I am unable to focus on my university examinations...
He had told me to get engaged with someone else and fall in love with someone else.But it seems impossible for me,because wenever someone proposes me,I don't feel the same thing,which I used to feel earlier.I just want to to lost in his thoughts and nobody should disturb me...
He was amazing person,different from others and his different aura alwaz pulled me towards him,and let me fall for him more and more...
Please help me,friends... I can't help it... plzzzzzzzzz

[sarv1999]

Hi sister,

All the people will not get what they want for life.. please accept the life as it is.. try to live your fulfilly.. have this in mind "his life is different and he has got nothing to do with ur life"
"Guys will easily change their mind" when he is able to say fall in love with someone.. he will sure change soon.. he will get married & will be happy.. please have in mind your parents spend how much for your studies.. till your exams are over have only this thought "I should successfully complete my exams,think of people who fail in exams & attempt the exams again" you are a good student... please concentrate on your exams... that will change your life,your mind to great extent... ALL THE BEST

[0rphan]

Different cultures/communities have lots of different ways, which sometimes have to be adhered to.

Even though we may not agree with arranged marriages, it is their way of life.

In this case it seems this is what will happen, unless he turns his back on his community.

You have to be a very strong person to reject you parents wishes.You would be cast out of the family for ever.

You need to try to understand this and move on.

Visit your doctor, who may be able to perscribe some sort of medication which will help you through this difficult time.

Things in time will get easier, which will enable you to look foreword and not back.