[bballer13]

Just as an overview, I've been going out with this girl for over a month and I've never liked a girl and felt as comfortable as I do around this girl. She's been telling me things like how much she likes me and why would I go out with her and how I could do so much better than her etc etc and well I now realize she's full of . We've spent a lot of time together so this is really driving me crazy, and based on the way she acted around me I know she really liked me.

It started last Saturday. I picked her up to go see a movie at 7. When we got to the movie it was sold out so we bought tickets for the 9 oclock showing. In the meantime we went to my car, and I don't think this is relevant but she gave me head (just had to throw that in there).. everything was going really well.. all the vibes I've ever gotten from her have been really good, including this night. There were no signs that I picked up on telling me otherwise.

We see the movie and after the movie we go back to my car and I jokingly lock her out like she always does to me every time she picks me up. She starts to walk away which annoyed me because of how hypocritical it was so when I drove to catch up to her and she got in the car all I said was "I don't care you can walk home if you want." That's literally all I said. She went into mute mode and stopped talking and started crying. She wouldn't even look at me like I was some kind of devil or something. I told her how sorry I was and how much she meant to me and how I would never do anything to intentionally hurt her etc etc. She didn' talk for over 10 minutes when she finally said "What do you want me to say? you brought up memories of my past by telling me to walk home and I was just kidding earlier." (HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW ABOUT HER PAST!! ) I again told her how sorry I was and to please forgive me for overreacting. I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk and she said she needed time to think so she got out of my car and walked away. I of course ran after her and when I caught up to her she told me she needed space so I let her go. After a few minutes passed by I called her and texted her repeatedly.. no response. An hour goes by and I'm still in the parking lot. I didn't know what to do. I drove around looking for her. I walked around looking for her. Finally an hour and 15 minutes later I get a text saying I'm sorry but it's not going to work and I found a ride home.

I texted her back asking her to please talk to me.. no response
The next morning I woke up early because I could not sleep so I texted her again.. no response.
I felt like such a because I did nothing wrong but later the next day I drove to her house anyway and brought her flowers but she wasn't home so her sister told me to leave it on the mat of the front door.. no response. Her sister told me that megan had been in her room all day upset but just recently left.

I haven't texted her since and have given her space. I made my point clear and whatever happens next is up to her. I've honestly lost a lot of respect for her and I'm glad I saw this side now rather than later, but its been 4 days and I haven't heard from her. I hate not having closure more than anything. I think there's more to it than what happened but she's not talking to me so I have no idea what it is. It's driving me crazy that she won't even give me a call to end it like a normal mature person. I'm just so confused and I don't get why if things were going so well she would act like this.. anyone have any ideas? Its been 4 days since I last tried to contact her.

[Scleros]

You hit a nerve and she's dealing with whatever unpleasant memories were dug up. Speculate she's either still mad and punishing you for digging it up, too embarrassed about her subsequent behavior, or has issues she wants to deal with alone. She may be in her own little depression pit that no amount of outside coaxing will pull her out of until she is ready.

[talaniman]

The thing to do is leave her alone, and let her deal with her own issues . Since she doesn't care to share, and you have no clue how to be helpful, then do as she says, and give her all the space she needs, and start doing your own thing without her.

Hope you enjoyed the month you had, but accept that that's all you get.

I wouldn't even take it personally, as how could you know what's going on in her world.

[amicon]

Whatever her reasons are,you're going to have to find closure within yourself by realising it's over.

Sometimes things don't work out and we just have to pick ourselves up and move on.

[dynocompe]

Yes you plead your case to her in your texts, and flowers, and have said sorry. And she is still not giving a positive reaction, so she knows how you feel. I would just let her be, and do not contact her anymore or plea for her forgiveness. Just wait for her to get over this, time will heal it, but if you don't stop buggin her, she will just go farther away and get more angry.
I loved written line number 8 in your story, made me chuckle