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4everalways · Feb 24, 2010, 06:41 AM

I have a boyfriend , and I've been dating him for a year now . I'm 14 years old . And I do love him a lot , but yesterday my friend was acting funny , and hiding her phone from me, so I tried too se the name of the person she was texting and it was my boyfriend , I asked him about it and he said she'd been texting him ever since she'd seen him at thye mall . Now this girl has a boyfriend who is bestfriends with my boyfriend , but yet she's still texting mine.. what should I do ?

racquel58 · Feb 24, 2010, 06:48 AM

OK, I know you will hate this but... you are so young!

BUT I know, I know... it still hurts and feels bad!

First, I think maybe just find out what they are texting! If its just friendly stuff that should be OK, yeah? I mean, surely you can be friends with the opposite sex without it meaning anything romantic? Also, it might be cool to have your best friend and boyfriend get on well? Then maybe you could all hang out together and have a good little group thing going on?

If it is something romantic then express to both of them that you don't appreciate it. Break up with him (trust me your only 14, you have SO much dating and fun to have!). And face your friend and tell her that she should not treat you that way, how would she feel if you did that? Tell her that you can't trust her and be friends with her for now. IF she is willing to grow up then eventually you can be friends with her again. If not, then don't worry. You have MANY more friends and boyfriends to experience in your life!

Romefalls19 · Feb 24, 2010, 06:51 AM

Find out what is being texted first, I wouldn't sweat it if it's just friendly stuff

4everalways · Feb 24, 2010, 06:55 AM

Your right , but I asked her about it and they both said they wernt saying anything bad , but if they were only being friendly than why hide it from me?. My friends a little on , the plus size.. and my boyfriend tells me he doesn't like bigg girls , but I have a strange feeling something is going on and being hiden from me .

racquel58 · Feb 24, 2010, 07:00 AM

Hmmm... maybe just take their word for it for now... but then just keep an eye and your mind open for more clues... Also, don't act jealous. Maybe that's why they are doing it, because she is jealous of you and likes the thought of you being jealous of her... I don't really know... im just going off what some of my friends were like when I was younger...

But def don't jump to conclusions and accuse them unless you know what's really going on!

4everalways · Feb 24, 2010, 07:04 AM

Okay, thank you . I think maybe she likes my boyfriend because her boyfriend really only uses her because she's always giving himmoney , but my boyfriend doesn't do that , I hope I'm just letting my jealousy gett the best of me , but some people just want what they can't have .

dynocompe · Feb 24, 2010, 07:22 AM

Your friend is probably hiding it because she secretly likes your boyfriend, your boyfriend talks to your friend to find information about you, that is what guys do at the age of 14

Devorameira · Feb 24, 2010, 08:06 AM

You really have to trust them unless you can see that their texting is inappropriate. Since you're all friends, maybe they just have a general gab session.

I do agree that they shouldn't be hiding it from you, but maybe they thought you'd get the wrong idea if you knew they were texting.

Jake2008 · Feb 25, 2010, 08:19 AM

It isn't a problem because your girlfriend is texting your boyfriend, it is a problem because your boyfriend is texting her back that's the problem.

You can't blame her, she may have put the bait out there, but he took it.

neverme · Feb 25, 2010, 09:21 AM

I think if this is a true friend then you need to trust her.

You are very young to be going out with a guy for a year? But if you feel that this relationship is still beneficial to your life and you trust him then there should be no problem.

Make sure that whatever you do that YOU are comfortable with it. Because when jealousy rears it's ugly head and you let it fester it is a very destructive emotion and you will be the one that suffers, whether there is something going on behind your back.

Best of Luck.

Hot water · Feb 25, 2010, 11:23 AM

There's nothing wrong with that as long as they're just being friendly... I always used to text my girls friends about gift ideas and what not. So maybe that's why it was a secret.

But sadly, you probably aren't going to find a loyal boy at that age. Wait a little longer till they're more mature before getting serious.