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    NvRShoutSabrina Posts: 23, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 22, 2010, 12:00 PM
    Relationship Problems :/
    Me and my boyfriend have really bad communication problems.. and he thinks I'm asking too much out of him from what I want in the relationship.. and I guess I kind of agree there. But, more than that we both are jealous and stuff. I don't like that he has friends that are girls because he has hurt me in the past with girls and I'm afraid he's going to do it again even though he swears he won't. And I guess his jealousy with me is the first time we ever dated we broke up and I dated his best friend... and I regret it.. TONS!. not just because he has jealousy over it.. just that relationship with that guy was really bad. When we got back together.. he just became a completely different person than who I'd fell in love with.. he changed... SO much. We've now been together 10 months.. and there is no doubt in my mind that he is the one I want.. I just don't know if I'm what he really wants. I suffer from depression.. and I'm quite moody.. I have really bad paranoia... and I just started getting help.. like I've only had one session. He thinks that everything I get upset over is so stupid... but to me at the time it isn't stupid.. and I just want to be comforted when I get upset instead of being told I'm stupid for it and I need to calm down and get over it. He says that I'm selfish and spoiled rotten when it comes to our relationship and that hurts my feelings.. I don't try to be that way. Last night he wanted to break up with me then decided we could try and wait till I'm on my anti-depresants to see if that helps.. but I think it's going to take a lot more than me being put on medication to help our relationship. I don't think he realizes that I'm the one doing all the changing for him.. but he refuses to give anything back to me without me being selfish or spoiled for it. I don't know what to think anymore.. I don't want to leave him.. I want to fix things... Any Advice?
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    Feb 22, 2010, 12:09 PM

    It is impossible to love another person completely, when you do not love yourself.

    I think the only strength you can get for this relationship, is time apart. Time to really develop who you are.

    How old are you?
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    Feb 22, 2010, 12:10 PM

    I'm 16
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    Feb 22, 2010, 12:18 PM

    And I have heard the other stuff before.. about having to love yourself before someone else can love you, and me and him possibly needing a break..

    I love myself, I have issues/flaws but everyone does.. and I'm trying to get help.. as for him loving himself I'm not sure.

    And we have tried taking a break before.. we were going to try to wait a week or so.. but we just ended up getting back together 12 hrs later
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