[dee girl]

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I've been dating with my boyfriend for 8 months, we've met since fresh year. I really love him, I'm use to been with him. But there's a problem he gets mad out of everything, he doesn't want me to talk to my girlfriends nor guy friends he also doesn't want me to go out or change how I want. Please help me give me advices I don't know what to do ,

[suhari]

Means that your boyfriend is possessive. Is sometimes difficult to deal with this oral typical. Approach you can do is to give understanding to him patiently. And for the beginning, you just do what he says. And when you date or a meal you can confide. Or with bad stories about people who fared poorly with excessive protective properties provided by her boyfriend.

[Jake2008]

To Dee,

Run, don't walk, to the nearest exit, and never look back.

A healthy relationship is not about controlling another person.

You start losing your 'self' when someone, through intimidation, is critical, possessive, demanding, and controlling to a point, where suddenly, you have lost far more than you have gained.

You have lost your friends, because he wishes to isolate you from them (likely your family too) in order to have more control over you. What you wear, how you dress, where you go, what you do- everything and anything is subject to his approval/disapproval, and you are subject to how he feels about every move you make.

When you don't comply, you will feel his wrath. Gradually, you will learn to do everything in your power to comply and be who he wants you to be.

But the problem is, and what you have not yet learned, is that he will never be satisfied enough to allow you to have your freedom back. This street only goes one way, and it's all bad news.

Get yourself back to living without a controlling man over your head before you get in too deep, and his behaviour gets worse and worse.

Get out.

[jaime90]

I think you need to give talking a try. Tell him how you feel, express your opinions and see if his actions change. If he cares about the relationship, he will do something about it and understand how you feel. There's a chance he may not be very experienced in how to treat women, and may be a little ignorant on the ways of a relationship, so giving him a chance may be a good idea. This could be a simple habit that is easily broken.
HOWEVER, don't get too carried away. Remember, he gets one chance. Sit down and try to work things through. If nothing changes, if he doesn't care, if things continue the way they are, you need to up and leave.

[dee girl]

While I was going over his phone I saw some messages that he'd send to his friend and in the messages he was talking about girls. What should I do ,

I told him if he said he loved me he wouldn't of had done that but I'm really confused I don't know if he's right,