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    Feb 17, 2010, 03:50 AM
    Why do african church get mad if you don't keep going there
    My husband is african.Whenever I don't go to is church with him he comes home very upset and violent. He tells me they really pressure him and ask him a lot of questions when I'm not there. They did this even before we were married. This last time he went I didn't go and when he returned home he told me they wanted to have a meeting with me. I asked why and told him I have my own church and he got violent and beat me. We are now not living together. I wanted to know if anyone knows why he would act like that or what goes on in african churches that would make him act this way?
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    Feb 17, 2010, 03:56 AM

    That is just beautiful. He gets violent and beats you up and it is the churches fault. Do not let him pass the buck. He has no right to beat you up. What country do you live in?
    You have your own church, he has his, how did this work? What church did you get married in?

    So many questions, but the fact is your husband is a abuser and you need to leave him. Does not matter what the reasons are for getting violent there is no excuse.
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    Feb 17, 2010, 05:29 AM

    There is no "african" church, there are groups that are Muslim, Anglican, Catholic, methodist, AME, even Mormon.

    I has to do with the culture and the person more than any religion. It sounds like other male members are making fun of him since he does not "rule" his household. Then he ia a abusive person anyway since he beats you, real men do not beat anyone, and merely uses this as an excuse for his own short commings.

    You did the best by getting out, now just don't go back
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    Feb 17, 2010, 07:59 AM

    Chuck she never said that she left the relationship by the sounds of it she is still in it.
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    Feb 17, 2010, 03:40 PM
    I think chuck is right, this is a cultural thing and peer pressure. Perhaps these people know the fellow well, know he is an abuser and get on his back when his wife doesn't show up.

    Time to exit the relationship for good
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    Feb 17, 2010, 06:59 PM

    She said in second to last sentence,
    "we are now not living together"
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    Feb 17, 2010, 09:19 PM

    Yes, I agree.
    He is an abuser and they very seldom ever chance even after counseling.
    Often abusers come from an abusive family so it is ingrained since childhood.
    Get out and STAY OUT.
    Peace and kindness are much much better,
    Fred
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